Instead of having a reputation as being peacemakers, promoting reconciliation, and working towards unity, Christians are known for being loud, argumentative, petty, and contentious. Unfortunately, any semblance of Christ’s gospel message of hope, love, and grace is lost within the endless noise, debates, accusations, division, and hatred.
Christians need to stop obsessing over being right and having all of the answers and start focusing on following Christ’s example: sacrificially serving, helping, comforting, and loving everyone around us.
For Christians, it’s often easier to yell and scream instead of doing the very hard—and humble—work of loving others. Arguing is addictive because it feeds off of our need for self-glorification, self-righteousness, pride, power, and recognition.
Acting like Jesus, a person who ultimately died on a cross and devoted His life to selflessly helping others doesn’t seem that appealing—it isn’t. But we need to try—and the first step is to stop being combative and start focusing on being a peacemaker.
Stephen Mattson’s posts frequently weigh heavily on me. He is a true kindred soul. Arguing is the first of six things on this post. Click on the source above if you want to see the entire post. I will likely be posting on some of the others in the coming weeks.
Insistence of being right is certainly not an exclusive Christian quality. Almost, if not all, religious institutions are heavily involved in “being right”. Wars have been fought throughout human history of one religious group fighting and killing another for their insistence on the other group being wrong. If anything would reverse the seemingly decline in Christianity around the world arguing and particularly being right is probably a primary cause.
I am becoming fully convinced that the principle of coexistence is the path for me. That is to agree to disagree on some topics without having to argue that I am right. Little changes when we insist that we are right and they are wrong. It only stiffens up resistance to learn anything from the encounter. It is a turnoff for many who just might otherwise find some answers through the teachings of Jesus. If only we Christians started actually doing what Jesus demanded and quit arguing with everyone who thinks differently. Actions speak MUCH louder than words in my mind. Let’s all do a better job of acting like we are his followers….