I simply can’t understand why so many in the press still say that the current Oval Office occupant (#CO3) “exaggerates” when what he says daily are blatant lies. This post is about trying to figure out why people habitually lie.
Before I get into the reasons someone might lie, lets look at the liar-in-chief. It is obvious that #CO3 lies in order to try and make himself look as great as he thinks he is. After all, EVERYTHING he does is for that purpose. With my knowldege of him for the last 50 years that was obvious to me long before enough ignorant voters managed to put him in office.
To give you an example of how the press has downplayed his lying here are some quotes for recent new articles:
- “tried to reinvent his government’s troubled history on testing for the coronavirus”
- “That was also an exaggeration.”
- “also mischaracterized the trajectory of new cases in the United States.”
- “Moreover, that trend is not “universal” across the country, as Mr. Trump claimed“
To me, a liar is a liar, I don’t need any other words. Words like exaggeration, mischaracterized, and claimed are pandering to the liar.
Let’s get on to trying to discover why people obsessively lie. Here is a quick and very condensed synopsis from a Psychology Today article:
1. The lie does matter … to them. The number one reason people lie when it just doesn’t matter is because they actually do think it matters.
2. Telling the truth feels like giving up control. Often, people tell lies because they are trying to control a situation…
3. They don’t want to disappoint you. It may not feel like it to you, but people who tell lie after lie are often worried about losing the respect of those around them. They want you to like them, be impressed, and value them. And they’re worried that the truth might lead you to reject or shame them.
4. Lies snowball. We tell a little bitty lie, but then to cover that lie, we have to tell another one, then another, and another — each gets bigger and bigger. … If a chronic liar admits to any single lie, they feel like they’re admitting to being a liar, and then you’ll have reason to distrust them.
5. It’s not a lie to them. Multiple studies demonstrate that our memories are influenced by many things, that they change over time, and that they are essentially reconstructed each time we think about them. Often, repetitive liars feel so much pressure in the moment that their memory becomes simply unreliable. Sometimes, this can become so severe that the person almost seems to have created a complete alternate world in their head, one that conforms to their moment-by-moment beliefs and needs.
6. They want it to be true. Finally, the liar might want their lie to be true so badly that their desire and needs again overwhelm their instinct to tell the truth. But sometimes, liars hope that they can make something come true by saying it over and over, and by believing it as hard as they can.
Some of these reasons are so pathetic that it almost wants me to be sympathetic to this condition, but that is absolutely not the case when the person is doing some much damage to our country and the world by his self-absorbed words.