If I Were A Bird…

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If I were a bird, I would be a very rare sighting indeed! I am not “one among many” in most regards. Let’s look at this a little further.

I am deaf. That makes me a rather rare character. According to the statistics, less than 1% of the population is without ANY hearing. I went deaf at about 40 years of age. When that happened, I thought I was very much alone in the world. My ENT doctor that had been seeing me for almost a dozen years simply said “There is nothing more I can do for you, so goodbye”. Those words struck me to my core. I knew there were deaf people around who didn’t talk and made signs with their hands, but I didn’t know any of them. I certainly didn’t know there were any who went deaf at midlife as I did. My ENT simply dumped me with no indication of where to go!

After several months of self-pity, I finally found ALDA (Association of Late Deafened Adults). This was before the internet, so I couldn’t just google “deaf at mid-life”. I had to do the work to find others like me. Eventually, I found I wasn’t alone after all. Thousands of people just like me were part of that organization. They helped me greatly to get some self-worth issues back in my life.

I am an Aspie. Aspies make up less than 0.5% of the population. Asperger’s has been around for almost a century now, but it was just never given much attention until the 1990s. 90+% of that attention is toward children. We Aspie adults are pretty much left to fend for ourselves.

To the best I can determine, deaf-Aspies make up 1 in 3 million of the world’s population. That means there are about a hundred or so people like me in the U.S. I don’t expect to find anything like ALDA this time around, but at least I know I am not alone in the world. That is comforting enough for me.

If I were a bird, I would be one of the most treasured sighting an avid birder could hope to discover. But, being a person, I am for the most part totally ignored by the hearing world. It’s just too much work getting to know me as a real person, or at least, that is what most think. I do my best via RJsCorner to try to convince them that I, and a few others like me, are worth the effort. I can show you a worldview that you never knew existed.

2 thoughts on “If I Were A Bird…

    1. Yeah, Jackie, I too am glad that I have a venue for sharing some of my current circumstances. I think it is valuable to tell my story about both the end-of-life trauma and my initiation into retirement living. I think others can gain some insight from my words when it comes time for them to face the same things. Almost all of us will eventually do that some time in the future.

      I have been blogging at RJsCorner for almost 13 years now, and the contents have changed significantly during that time. But then again, so has my life.

      You have to admit that I am a rare bird, I kinda take pride in that fact, even it is means all the extra struggles along the way. 😵‍💫


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