Flirting in the Workplace..

One of my daily reads is from my friends over at The Drabble. They welcome anyone to submit their words but it must be 100 words or less.  It is very creative how so many can pack so much in so few words.  Here is an example from a recent post:

By Alex ColvinIn

In an age of reconsidering appropriate behavior at the workplace, how does one flirt at work? Well, I’ve got it down to a science.

2018-02-15_09-28-26.png1. Flirt.
2. Profusely apologize.
3. Run away as fast as you possibly can.

It’ll go something like this:

“Well, hello Nancy …”

Then panic. “Oh no! I’m so sorry, I didn’t mean it!”

Turn and run away as if hell were unleashed upon you.

Nancy will gaze after you as you vanish into the horizon with renewed intrigue. “Wow,” she’ll think, “He’s charming, sensitive, and completely not-threatening. I’ll ask him for his number.”

You’re welcome.

Source:  Appropriate Flirting at the Workplace |

While I would never claim to be an expert on these matters the above seems like a pretty good way to do it if you MUST flirt in the workplace. 🙂

 

Manifest Destiny…

HDWGH BannerBeing a US history buff I know the words “Manifest Destiny” became the siren call for an invasion of America. When I was in high school the term was proudly used to say it was inevitable that the US would become the great nation it is.

Let’s look at what Wikipedia says about manifest destiny:

2018-02-11_11-36-52.pngIn the 19th century, manifest destiny was a widely held belief in the United States that its settlers were destined to expand across North America. There are three basic themes to manifest destiny:

  • The special virtues of the American people and their institutions
  • The mission of the United States to redeem and remake the west in the image of agrarian America
  • An irresistible destiny to accomplish this essential duty

Historians have emphasized that “manifest destiny” was a contested concept—pre-civil war Democrats endorsed the idea but many prominent Americans (such as Abraham Lincoln, Ulysses S. Grant, and most Whigs) rejected it. Historian Daniel Walker Howe writes, “American imperialism did not represent an American consensus; it provoked bitter dissent within the national polity … Whigs saw America’s moral mission as one of democratic example rather than one of conquest.”

Many, especially those of us with Native-American roots have come to think of Manifest Destiny more as a genocide than as a noble cause led by angels.  It was a time that the current inhabitants of that land were termed “non-human savages”. This enabled the rationalization that if we couldn’t kill them all, it was proper to round them up and put them in a worthless piece of land to survive as long as they could.

I am just starting a long-term project of studying the actual history of Native Americans and it is shameful to see all the manipulation, lies and counter lies that were used to steal their land. The Louisana Purchase started Manifest Destiny.  That was where a European power (Spain) proclaimed that they “owned” the land in middle America and it was up for sale.

Of course, Manifest Destiny did not stop there. Texas, California, and the entire Southwest from wrenched from Mexico with the same rationalization.

Looking at this from a longer-term scale, I realize that conquest and genocide have always been part of humanity.  It goes all the way back to the Bible where God supposedly told the Israelis to steal land belonging to others and to annihilate every man, woman, and child who currently occupied it so they would not be tainted by their culture.

And then there was Germany under Hitler who savagely tried to make all of Europe his kingdom. The concentration camps were another example of genocide. This will be another story in the “How Did We Get Here” series coming soon.

I know this post is pretty much dark in nature, but we need to recognize that the history of the US is just not that much different from many others in the past or even today. Being an optimist, that leaves us plenty of room for improvement in the future.

One thing I find encouraging is that Germany has now come to “own” their past but we in the US have for the most part failed to do the same.

 

About Grammarly

I don’t know how many of you have discovered an app called Grammarly. It basically is a tool that resides in the background and watches everything you type. If you misspell a word or don’t have quite the correct punctuation it quickly turns red and if you hover over those reddened words possible corrections are presented to you.

Here is how my friends at Wikipedia describe this tool:

2018-01-29_15-58-19.pngGrammarly is an English language writing-enhancement platform developed by Grammarly, Inc., which was launched in late 2009. Grammarly’s proofreading and plagiarism-detection resources check more than 250 grammar rules

2018-02-09_08-10-51.pngI am a wordsmith so I almost always go back and check things, again and again, to make sure they are as they should be. In the past, that has been quite an arduous and time-consuming process.  Now, with Grammarly, it almost happens in real-time.  It even gives me statistics about how much I write and how well I do it.  See an example to the right. Grammarly is now one of my top writing tools.  But for many Grammarly has a dark side.

To make a point I want to go back in time to another such situation before I proceed forward.  In 1971 the first pocket calculator came to the market and was quickly banned in most schools. The logic was that if students had a machine to do it for them they would not learn how to do mathematical functions in their minds.  It would be several years before a student could use a calculator during tests in the classroom.

Since I graduated from college in 1970 I didn’t have to worry about a calculator stunting my mind. Yeah, I had a slide rule during college that allowed me to do this stuff but it was anything but convenient or easy.  Finally, in 1986 some schools “required” that a student have a calculator during testing as doing without meant fewer problems could be solved.

Coming back to the issue of Grammarly, I suspect the same thing is happening again in the academic world. I suspect this tool is again frowned upon. But in my mind, it actually frees up educational time for other topics.  The fundamentals do need to be taught but not monotonously drilled into my head. There is so much more to be subjected to in the educational process than this.

This brings up another related topic for the conclusion of this particular post. When I was in high school in the 1960s we had seven fifty minute classes. The school day was from 8:00 am to 3:30 pm. Now it seems that our local school has shortened their day by at least an hour and on Fridays, they let out at noon. Snow days when they happened during my time were made up at the end of the year. With so much more to learn why are students required to spend less time in the classroom than I did?

A Touch of Austism…

I have previously discovered that I have some characteristics that are identified with Asperger’s Syndrome which is part of the Autism spectrum. As a result, I have been more deeply studying the topic. I don’t call myself an Aspie as I have not been formally diagnosed with that condition but, I am certain  I have common traits with it.

I have recently discovered that there is a LOT of variation in what people say is the definition of autism. Here is a little more about that:

2016-07-18_17-22-29.pngPerhaps we could detach Asperger’s from autism and say that Aspies are different from other autists the way zoologists say that cheetahs are different from leopards. Let us stipulate the obvious: they are different species.

But in my analogy, naming them as different species does not erase the fact that they belong to a broader category called “big cats” or “predatory felines,” and giving Asperger’s a separate name does not erase the fact that there are large areas of overlap with what I call “deeper autism.”

The above was (I repeat) only an analogy. The point intended is to say: we can change our labels and create a more exclusive definition for autism. But the fact remains: the spectrum is broad because it is describing a fundamental reality.

Autism (broadly defined) is much more common than we thought.

Source:  Why is the autistic spectrum so broad and diverse? – Quora

To me, the classifying of autism is in a funk right now. No one knows just how to classify it. There is now a term labeled “Broader Autism Phenotype” (BAP) that describes people who are “sort of ” autistic but still highly functioning. I think that kinda describes me.

I know there are probably some people who have children with severe forms of autism that resent someone who is, for the most part, a fully functioning member of society using the label.  I can relate to that because when I hear that someone is “deaf” I immediately question if they can hear but not fully understand the spoken word. Many with that condition are labeled as “deaf.” when they are really just hearing impaired. There is a world of difference between the two and so I kinda, but really not too much,  resent them saying they are deaf.

Another example might be that someone proclaims they are a cancer survivor when all that entailed was to have a mole removed. To someone who is struggling with lung cancer that is demeaning of their condition.

I don’t know how this will all eventually work out. We can change our labels but as it presently stands autism is a very broad spectrum because it describes a fundamental reality that there are many of us who struggle with life’s social situations.

I will continue to proclaim that I have some Aspie type characteristics but will not call myself an Aspie. I hope I don’t offend those who struggle with this condition much more than I do.

The Trouble with Lies…

Being unable to read is illiteracy. That is tragic but something even worse is being able to read but choosing not to.  Of course, you know who I am talking about.

canstockphoto14308761We have never had a president in our history who was proudly illiterate until now.  He claims he is a genius and graduated first in his class at Wheaton College.  A reporter recently found public records of those who made the Dean’s List during those years and Mr. Trump was never on the list. So how could someone who graduated at the top of his class not make the dean’s list?  Of course, that is impossible. But if pushed to it Trump would probably give another conspiracy theory about how the dean didn’t like that he was so much smarter than him that he erased his name.

This all brings to mind a personal story. I have let it be known here on RJsCorner that my mother, like our current president, was an extreme narcissist.  Some of her regular fabrications were about her occupation.

  • She proclaimed was a college graduate when in fact she very likely never graduated from high school. She was pregnant at the age of fifteen in the 1940s and then had a second child (me) at 17. Preganent girls did not attend high school during those years let along college.
  • In another part of her life, she proclaimed she was a nurse when in fact she only worked as a receptionist in a doctor’s office for less than a year in her early twenties.
  • Later in life, she proclaimed she was a doctor. This came about when she volunteered once a week for two months at a local medical center and they let her wear a white coat. After that, she added “Dr.” to her name everywhere she could.
  • After her fourth husband died and I had to take over managing her life, I insisted she stop saying she was a doctor. Reluctantly she did so, but then she started telling all the assisted-living and nursing home folks that she was the head nurse at a major metropolitan hospital.

I don’t think she really consciously knew she was constantly lying. She was probably convinced in her own mind of each of the fabricated occupations. Her narcissism dictated so many lies in her life. The same thing is true for Mr. Trump and his fabrications. He claims he is a genius so there is nothing else he needs to know. He proclaims he is a billionaire but hides possible proof of it and calls it a “red line” if anyone should access his tax returns.

The primary symptom of Narcissism is that they make EVERYTHING is about them. There is no meaning outside of themselves. Sadly that proved to be true yet again when he recently tweeted about the latest school shooting. His point wasn’t about empathy, of which he likely has none, but instead about how investigating him made it happen. Everything has to be about him.

In closing, the trouble with compounding one lie after another is that it becomes impossible to keep them straight.

Saving Jesus

This post is about some insightful words from a book entitled Saving Jesus from the Church: How to Stop Worshiping Christ and Start Following Jesus by Robin R. Meyers. This book solidified my belief that the words of Jesus have been losing focus in the church. Here are the words for today.

Strangely, we have come to a moment in human history when the message of the Sermon on the Mount could indeed save us, but it can no longer be heard above the din of dueling doctrines. Consider this: there is not a single word in that sermon about what to believe, only words about what to do. It is a behavioral manifesto, not a propositional one. Yet three centuries later, when the Nicene Creed became the official oath of Christendom, there was not a single word in it about what to do, only words about what to believe!

It is no secret to those who have visited here before that I am no admirer of King Constantine and the damage he did to the Christian church. It seems “the road not taken” is constantly in my thoughts and the words above are no exception.  I wonder what would be the state of Christianity if Constantine had not hijacked it to try to shore up his crumbling empire. I wonder if we would be more focused on the behavioral manifesto of the Sermon on the Mount instead of the propositional one he had written fifteen centuries ago?

Until I read this book the stark contrasts between Jesus’ word at the Mount and the Nicene Creed were not as apparent to me. The emergent church movement, of which Robin Meyers is a member, has a goal to try to rescue the words of Jesus from the church. Many churches today have tried to domesticate Jesus to one degree or another. They want to make being a Christian as easy as possible and Jesus’ words often get in the way of that goal so they just ignore the words they don’t particularly like.

Many versions of Christianity today who call themselves biblical literalists say that all of the words in the Bible are just as important as any others.  They say that the stories, myths, parables and such are just as important as Jesus’ messages to us on how to live a Godly life. They say the words of Jesus just aren’t any more important than the words of for instance Paul and even those anonymous people who wrote some of the epistles in his name.

One of the common complaints about today’s churches, especially by younger generations is that they are no longer relative to today’s world. Many say they are very interested in the words of Jesus but the church is a total turn-off.   We need to take back Jesus from those who try to domesticate him and let his radical words give us back the true meaning of being followers of Jesus Christ.

It all comes down to the fact that actions speak louder than words and definitely louder than creeds/beliefs.

Heinz Museum – Pittsburgh

2018-02-13_10-40-37.pngFor this artsy Saturday, I thought I would give you a pretty unique view of the Heinz Museum in Pittsburgh PA.  The museum is in an old factory building. The picture here is looking down an open staircase. Of course, the museum includes the history of Heinz Catsup and such but there is also much more there for your enjoyment.  I find this picture fascinating for all the detail it involves. If you want to learn more about the museum, click on the image to the right.

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Crossing of the Delaware

2018-02-13_10-07-26.pngOne of the first things that most school children are taught about American history is Washington’s crossing of the Deleware River.  Since it happened in the dark of night the day after Christmas in 1776 it was a rather dramatic event.  It was also an important victory for the fledgling American army who had suffered mostly defeats up till then.

If you are ever near Trenton New Jersey you should stop in at the Washington Crossing Historic Park and hear the full story.  The museum there is full of artifacts. Nearby is also the Old Barracks Museum showing things about military life during that period. Both are well worth your time.

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Being Prepared…

2018-02-05_10-18-29.pngEven though I was never a Boy Scout, I am a person who tries to be prepared for the challenges I will be facing. If I want to discuss a controversial topic I try to study both sides to see where my feelings might reside. “Think For Yourself” is one of my primary mantras in my life. I simply don’t let others tell me what to think. But then again, maybe that is one of the reasons I was never a Boy Scout (ha).

Then I see the current Oval Office occupant who is totally unprepared for the many challenges he faces.  I know he never dreamed he would actually occupy that prime real estate, he was just having fun dissing people. Maybe that is an excuse for being unprepared?  But the even more tragic thing about all of this is that now that he is there he seems doggedly determined to stay unprepared. Of course, his narcissism has something to do with that and his grand illusion of being a perfect genius also contributes to that continued ignorance.

Changing pace a little here with a snippet:

2018-02-05_10-09-37.pngthe real craziness of 2017 is best expressed in terms of constitutional theory. Our Constitution vests the entire executive power in a single individual. No worse joke has been played on the American people than the very fact that tens of thousands of eighth graders have a far better grasp of the Constitution than Donald Trump, even though he swore a sacred oath to “preserve, protect, and defend” it on January 20, before the record crowds he deluded himself to see assembled before him. That’s not just political craziness; it’s truly meshugah in every sense of the term. Just try to imagine a conversation with Jefferson, Madison, either Adams, or Abraham Lincoln—strong constitutionalists all—on one side of the table, and the current chief executive on the other. That would be crazy, too!

Source: Was 2017 the Craziest Year in U.S. Political History? – POLITICO Magazine

Unwillingness to even attempt to prepare for the future when millions of lives are at stake by your actions is a deadly sin as far as I am concerned. To me, that is a 25th amendment thing in itself.  As my hero, Will Rogers said, “Everyone is ignorant, just on different subjects”.  Ignorance is not stupidity unless we refuse to learn. But then again extreme self-imposed ignorance is STUPIDITY!

The underlying reason for his continued ignorance of constitutional matters is his abject refusal to read.  Here is a little about that:

Wolff [Fire and Fury authoer] quotes economic adviser Gary Cohn writing in an email: “It’s worse than you can imagine. Trump won’t read anything—not one-page memos, not the brief policy papers, nothing. He gets up halfway through meetings with world leaders because he is bored.”…

In March, Reuters reported that briefers had strategically placed the president’s name in as many paragraphs of briefing documents as possible so as to attract his fickle attention.

Source: The President Who Doesn’t Read – The Atlantic

 

 

 

One Good Thing About the Trump Presidency

2018-02-10_14-04-21.pngAs usual, I have been in a reflective mood this time of year.  I am trying to see if any good has come from the current presidency. What I am currently latching onto is that now that there is a self-proclaimed, and seemingly proudly so, the sexual abuser in the White House that topic has finally moved to the forefront. Of course, it has a hashtag  #MeToo.  Even though he has not yet been called to task many others who thought they were exempt have now fallen from grace. It is amazing to me just how quickly that happened.

But I do kind of wonder just how deep this current sexual harassment base is? Since 53% of white women voted for Trump even as he admitted he was guilty of sexual abuse, I wonder where those voters are now? Are they still Trump supporters? I don’t know..

I worked 30 years in the corporate world and was aware of the sexual harassment around me. In my company, it was never rampant but it did exist under the surface.

Too bad #MeToo was not around when Anita Hill testified during that infamous Supreme Court nomination. If it was we would likely not have an incompetent holding down a lifetime appointment to that noble institution. I wonder if there is a way to get someone off that bench who plainly is unable to perform the duties. Is there a 25th amendment for Supreme Court judges? But I am getting off topic here…

I know that Bill Cosby started this avalanche but Trump caused it to go critical mass and that is a good thing.  I just wonder if that will be the Trump legacy years after he has relinquished his deadly hold on the country?

Oct 8, 2016 –

Trump: You know, I’m automatically attracted to beautiful — I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything.

Bush: Whatever you want. 

Trump: Grab ’em by the pussy. You can do anything.

Oct 16, 2016 – People magazine writer, Natasha Stoynoff, was interviewing the Trumps in 2005 at Mar-a-Lago. She says, quote, “I turned around and within seconds he was pushing me against the wall and forcing his tongue down my throat.” Summer Zervos, a former contestant on The Apprentice alleges Trump forced …

Etc, Etc, Etc…

In the back of my mind, I kinda wonder if Bill Clinton had been called to task on his alleged sexual assaults whether there would even be a Trump presidency??

 

On The Road – Clifty Falls State Park

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Clifty Falls State Park in southern Indiana is one of my favorites. The campgrounds are well laid out and maintained and the hiking trails are manageable for this senior.  And of course, the park is a mecca for photographers. As is my custom on my micro-RV trips I had breakfast at the inn after a night in the campgrounds.

Being close to Madison Indiana, the campground makes an enjoyable base for a multi-day stay and that is what I did. I enjoyed a day in the park, another in Madison, and third day at St Meinrad Archabbey near Ferdinand. If you are a Catholic, and even if you aren’t, the archabbey is so peaceful it would be worth the trip.

It seems that most people, including me, generally think of Indiana as a “travel through” State and kind of boring.  But if you take the time to stop and see some of these sites you may just change your mind about that.  At least for a little while. 🙂

Below are some pictures of this trip for your enjoyment. As usual, click on any picture to see a larger slideshow view.

Us vs Them.. How Did We Get Here; How Do We Get Out??

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In lieu of talking about the current political scene, I am going to try to make the logo above one of the central topics here at RJsCorner for the coming months. I know I frequently announce these types of projects and then don’t carry them through, but this one is kind of like an epiphany for me. I don’t think there is going to be one way to break the “Us vs Them” tragedy; it will take millions of voices singing the same tune to make that happen.  I want to be one of those voices…

I haven’t thoroughly thought out a particular strategy for my contribution but being a history buff I know we need to find where we have been before we can figure out where we are going.  So, I will start out here with studying the biggest examples and then search for a possible solution.

Going from there will likely be how each of us can contribute to putting the current “Us vs Them” episode into the past.  I know this is a noble goal, especially at this late stage of my life but I want to be one of those millions who contribute, so why not.

2018-02-01_11-46-29.pngTo finish this first post I want to talk a little about the featured photo of this post which is also included in the banner that will be on each post on this subject.  It was a large illuminated panel shown here which is at the “Brown vs Board of Education” national site in Topeka Kansas. The building is not a large one but contains many artifacts that will make you think about racial prejudice and particularly the Civil Rights era. Many of you probably recognize the picture as Birmingham Alabama forced school integration. On September 10th, in 1963, twenty black students entered previously all-white public schools in Birmingham they were protected by National Guard soldiers. As I was going through the rooms I suddenly came upon on this large picture and the hate that filled the young white woman’s eyes literally shook me to my bones.  I have never seen hate personified as I did in the large photo. Every time I see the photo I wonder if that young girl ever got over the hatred she had? If she didn’t it probably consumed her as it did so many southern bigots of those time.

Now a story about my personal experiences with racial prejudice in the Southern States in the 1960s and 70s. I was a young engineer in 1972 when I was sent to a Shreveport Louisana factory to assist in solving a manufacturing problem.  It was there that I met Mel. He was a “good ole boy” that all the engineers loved to hear his stories. When we went to the cafeteria for a coffee break he proceeded to tell his dehumanizing story about lazy black niggers. I was totally embarrassed by his words and even more embarrassing was that the told in within hearing distance of scores of African-Americans sitting in the dining room. That fact didn’t bother him at all, in fact, it probably excited him. This was my first real exposure to racial prejudice and it stuck with me throughout my life.  I think throughout this series we will come to find that turning your enemy into something inhuman is an essential part of this ugly process.

For anyone who cares to read the inscription on the panel click on the photo below to see a readable view:

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Our Own Version….

2014-02-17_08-51-46MIDDLESBORO, Ky. (AP) — A snake-handling pastor who appeared on the National Geographic television reality show “Snake Salvation” has died after being bitten by a snake during a weekend church service in Kentucky.

SOURCE: Snake-handling Ky. pastor dies from snake bite – Yahoo News.

While this is maybe of the extreme part of the spectrum it is still a typical example of how we pick and choose what we want to be the image of God.  It takes one verse out of the tens of thousands found in the Bible and uses it for the main focus of spirituality.  “You shall take up snakes…” is an example of what serious critics of the church use to illustrate the absurdity of believing in God. Regrettably, that is not without some degree of truth.

Yes, this is an extreme example but by no means the only one. There are literally thousands of groups, some small and some very large, who take a minuscule piece of biblical text and explode it into a major belief system.  To some degree, even Protestantism is an example of this. Martin Luther, who is generally acknowledged as the pioneer of that version of Christianity spent years searching biblical text for something to ameliorate his enormous feeling of low self-esteem and utter worthlessness. When he discovered that single verse in Ephesians that said that grace is a gift and not from works he had is “aha” moment like so many others before and after him and found his version of Christ. Ironically, most theologians today have come to believe that Ephesians was not actually written by the Apostle Paul, but instead by some anonymous person who wrote it in his name.

These issues are very much a forest/trees situation.  If anything, we should be looking at the overall message of the Bible and particularly of the words of Jesus Christ to find our place in life. Instead, we search and search for that one iota that seems to relieve our current guilts or conditions and then practically throw away the rest of the forest to only concentrate on that one tree of knowledge. From that point on our focus on the Bible is to find similar verses to the one we found to back up our new-found system of belief and there have been centuries of that very kind of practice occurring.

Instead of looking for that single tree to latch on to we should all be forest watchers. We will never completely understand the ecosystem of God’s forest but we should at least try to see its overall beauty. During our journey into the forest, we must also understand that others who are also searching might have a different current concept of the forest. That does not make them wrong or us right, it is just different. In fact, not a single one of us will ever really get it “right”. Not one of us…

This post is an edited version of a post from my blog RedLetterLiving.net 

My Flickr Is Growing…

Snippet BannerJust a quick snippet to let you know that I have already added almost 200 of my favorite photos to Flickr. Flickr ButtonI have a couple thousand photos that will eventually go there but this is a pretty good start.  Click on the icon to the right, or the one always on the Home page to access them. While you are there click on the Albums button to see what’s there.