Turning Back the Odometer…

I like old cars and I am kinda proud of passing on some of my experiences in life here on RJsCorner. Yeah, there are things, actually quite a few, that I would like to have been different but even the undesired things are an important part of my life’s experiences, that looking back have made me who I am. If I hadn’t been deaf I wouldn’t have the level of empathy that I do. If I had not grown up in a single very stoic parent household I wouldn’t have the understanding of such things as I do. As another … Continue reading Turning Back the Odometer…

A Lot Of Noise Goin On…

I don’t know why I seem to be so fixated on sounds lately let alone poultry stuff.¬† My daily and weekly posts here are RJsCorner are now named after sounds (cackle and squawk) that chickens make. I need to get to the underlying reason for this. ūüôā¬† I lost my¬†hearing thirty years ago, and since then my brain has forgotten what many sounds sound like.¬† Sadly one of those areas is musical instruments.¬† I used to play the guitar, not terribly well but to my own satisfaction, and I really enjoyed that pleasure. Now when I see a musical instrument … Continue reading A Lot Of Noise Goin On…

I Am Old…

Ok, I will admit it for at least the argument of this post, I am old.¬† I don’t mean to get morbid but I am likely in the last decade of my life.¬† Being old, besides all the aches and pains, is kind of freeing. We just don’t care as much about what people think of us than we used to. Our image is pretty much set in stone at this point in our lives so making a fool of ourselves now it not a big thing. One of the things at the new RJsCorner I plan on doing pretty … Continue reading I Am Old…

Lost Dreams..

It is important to take stock in all the good things we have had. But it is also worthwhile to recognize the opportunities we might have missed. In the past I have told many stories about how, after very humble beginnings, I have had a pretty privileged life.¬† This post is about the things I might have missed. So, here is that story. The bible says something about not worrying about tomorrow or the past, but just live in today. Those always seemed like wise words to me but being I question everything they also sometimes seem like stifling words. … Continue reading Lost Dreams..

A Gardening I Will Go…

I have been fascinated by gardens just about all of my life. ¬†I think it started with Mrs. Forester when I was six years old. ¬†She was a very old lady, at least in six year old terms, who lived next to us in urban Indianapolis. ¬†I don’t know if she was widowed or just a spinster but she was always nice to me even though I was probably a pretty hyperactive kid that most old people have little tolerance for. Mrs. Forseter’s back yard seemed like it was a palatial estate when in reality it was probably no more … Continue reading A Gardening I Will Go…

A.B.C.D vs Q.I.U.T.G

Some people live their lives one way and some another. Some think that for today they need to do A.B.C.D and then tomorrow repeat that sequence and continuing to do that the rest of their days. And then there are others who think that for today they need to do W.Q.E.T.Y and then tomorrow H.P.I.Y and avoiding as many repeats as possible. I don‚Äôt know what makes some people A.B.C.D and some the opposite, but I know that my wife is of the former type and I am at the other end. Most of the adventures we have been on … Continue reading A.B.C.D vs Q.I.U.T.G

Aspie Trait #2 – We are honest to a fault

¬† ¬†We Aspies are usually brutally honest and speak our mind. Our allegiance is to the truth, not people‚Äôs feelings. Most people learn not to tell the truth all the time. Sometimes white lies need to be said so as not to hurt friends‚Äô feelings. But white lies just seem¬†immoral or at least illogical to many of us Aspies. Of course, being brutally honest is not the way to make friends at least at a casual level so many of us lack those kinds of friendship growing up. I realize that I sometimes hurt people’s feeling here on RJsCorner by … Continue reading Aspie Trait #2 – We are honest to a fault

Three Weeks Post Brain Surgery…

¬† ¬†It is hard to believe that three weeks ago right now I was in a cold sterile operating room with the top of my skull removed to fix a bleeding brain! Long story short, I am doing remarkedly well and anxious to get back to a normal routine. I haven’t suffered any seizures that are somewhat common for brain bleed surgeries and have really not had a lot of pain. ¬†The doctor gave me a prescription for “heroin in a pill” but I have not found it necessary to take any of them as Tylenol¬†has been doing the job … Continue reading Three Weeks Post Brain Surgery…

Destroying The Work of Past Generations..

My wife is an avid watcher of TV, especially the ‘flipper’ shows where someone buys a house for $20,000 and puts some paint on it and then sells it for $40,000. To me, that very idea is WRONG on so many levels: It Gives People The Wrong Idea — It is kind of like sports in my mind where a kid decides that he will be a professional in basketball/football, you name it. He then spends literally all his waking hours playing that sport to the exclusion of everything else. As a result, he is totally unprepared for life when … Continue reading Destroying The Work of Past Generations..

My Personal Experience with Brain Trauma – Part 3

Before the surgery, I really had no idea who Dr. P was or what he looked like. (I am not using his full name here as I don‚Äôt have permission from him and don‚Äôt want to intrude on his privacy). Looking at him when he delivered the good post-surgery news I discovered he was a sixty-year-old or so guy with white hair and a neatly trimmed mustache. He came in a couple more times that day to check on me. When my wife was not there to sign for me he always grabbed the paper and pencil to give me … Continue reading My Personal Experience with Brain Trauma – Part 3

Personal Experience with Brain Trauma – Part 2 Off To The Operating Room

In the last post, I left off just before my consult with a brain surgeon. When the ER doctor told me I had a chronic brain bleed because of my fall that scared me more than I have been in a long time.  When the surgeon told me he needed to go in and fix it and to relieve the pressure, my life didn‚Äôt flash before my eyes but I was thinking this could be the end. After I agreed to the surgery I started thinking about what if these were my last hours? I told my wife I didn‚Äôt … Continue reading Personal Experience with Brain Trauma – Part 2 Off To The Operating Room

My Personal Experience with Brain Trauma & The US Healthcare System- Part 1

It started out in the barnyard of my 2.5-acre homestead. The fence there is old and many of the posts were broken. Since the fence is no longer necessary and is only a hindrance to mowing now I decided I would remove it during these winter months. While I was doing that a couple of weeks ago. I as best as I can remember tried to pull done an already broken post. Long story short I ended on the ground with the post on top of me. That was mistake 1, don‚Äôt take any fall as nothing of consequence. Since … Continue reading My Personal Experience with Brain Trauma & The US Healthcare System- Part 1

Beulah..

¬†We lost our beloved Beulah about three years ago now, but I still think of her quite often. She was always entangled in my feet on the couch for the occasional¬†afternoon naps. ¬†Whenever I said anything that even remotely sounded like “walk” she would get excited and rush to the door. ¬† We decided not to replace her as a new canine member of the household would likely outlive us. ¬†I have¬†had pets all my life and although I do love Dexter, our cat, it is just not the same. I even got to admit that I kind of miss … Continue reading Beulah..

About Deafness — Chapter 92

I realized that it has been quite some time since I put out a post primarily about deafness. But the title of “chapter 92” is kind of made up.  ūüôā  This particular chapter is the result of an episode on the CBS News – Sunday Morning about being in an anechoic chamber. First off the program mentioned is not really about “news” but more of like On the Road with Charles Kuralt but with Indiana’s own Jane Pauley. Now I know I am dating myself with this reference but for those of you who don’t know about “On The Road..” check it out … Continue reading About Deafness — Chapter 92

Free-Range Kids..

I know that free-range chickens are now quite a fad especially when you hear stories about the¬†other method of raising them. I don’t know but I guess people tend to think that they taste better because they have a variety of weeds, stones, and such to eat. Myself I prefer the $4.88 roasted chickens from Sam’s Club. ūüôā This post is not really about chickens but a story about¬†my youth. I was definitely a free-range kid. ¬†I roamed the neighborhood, at least a couple blocks of it. ¬†As long as I was home for supper I usually didn’t get into … Continue reading Free-Range Kids..

Oh, The Food…

I just realized that I have not given a truly autobiographical post in quite some time so here goes. This one is about my college years and particularly how I earned a major portion of the money needed to pay for my education. When I was in college now fifty years ago one of the things that almost everyone, or at least those in the dormitories, complained about is how bad the food in the cafeteria is. Its kind of like hospital food I guess. You are not supposed to like it. But, as usual, I take a different stand. … Continue reading Oh, The Food…

Winter…

I think I have let it be known here that I am not a fan of winter especially the snow and ice part of it. I am bringing up this photo not to tell you what it is like today but what it was like about this time in 2012. It just makes this winter season so much more bearable to remember what past ones were like. ¬†I have yet to get my snow blade out of the barn this season and hope I don’t have to. Continue reading Winter…

Disappointment …

This is going to be one of those personal posts for me as it delves into my inner being but it needs to come out. ¬†I think it is natural that when a person starts to realize¬†his mortality that he tries to summarize his life and the world around him. For some it is about¬†legacy, some just tr I have been doing that a lot the last few months. It is not that I ¬†think I will die anytime soon but of course I¬†have much more life behind me than ahead. I have been searching for that one word to … Continue reading Disappointment …

Coming In Droves…

My bird feeders certainly get a lot of activity during the winter months. ¬†We feed about 100 lbs of seed a month during that time. ¬†One thing that always amazes me is that those coming to the feeder usually come in droves. ¬†The squirrels were here in mass this morning. There were four of them who did not get included in the picture! ¬†Soon the bluejays will come followed by the Cardinals. ¬†Later in the day it is usually a very integrated group.   Continue reading Coming In Droves…

All Puffed Up…

It was down to zero degrees last night here in Indiana. I sometimes wonder how all my feathered friends cope with these conditions. The picture below is one that shows one way they cope. ¬†They get all puffed up to maintain body heat. Here is to you my friend. ¬†I promise to keep the feeder well stocked during these cold winter months so come back often… Continue reading All Puffed Up…

Looking Back On A Weird Year..

¬†¬†Here we are at the end of another year so I guess it is time for some reflections on life. ¬†Tomorrow’s post will be looking forward but let’s look back on this one. To say the least it has been a very interesting year. Healthwise it has been a good one for both my wife and me as we had no major health events and that is good for people¬†our age. I have tried to stay fit as best I can. ¬†My weight is ¬†the same as it was this time last year and I actually managed to get in … Continue reading Looking Back On A Weird Year..

I Am Just Not a “Niche” Guy…

¬†¬†For my weekly bio post I thought I would talk a little about my blogging processes in particular but more generally¬†about my thought processes which due to Aspergers is probably different than yours. Many of the more successful blogs around the Internet are niche blogs, that is they concentrate on one particular topic. Many that I read are of the retirement genre. Their readers pretty much know what they are going to get when they go to their sites. As they say like-minded people like to congregate together, especially during these trying times so they don’t want any surprises and … Continue reading I Am Just Not a “Niche” Guy…

About Dreaming…

TL Banner¬†¬†I know the image of an old person is generally not linked to a dreamer but that is just what I am. Many think old people are just supposed to “sit back and watch”, their dream days are behind them. To that I say poppycock…. ūüôā

Dreaming is a lifelong process that never ends. My earliest dreams were to try to touch the sky. For some reason I have always been attracted to looking up. Even as a very young boy in the early 1950s¬† I could be found lying in the grass on a summer night looking up at the stars and dreaming about them and what the future might hold for me. Continue reading “About Dreaming…”

My Blue Collar Dad..

¬† ¬†I have been forgetful lately about one of my pledges here on RJsCorner and that is to write stories¬†about my past. Sometimes I just seem to get too locked into what is happening in the world around me today to¬†remember to¬†step back and celebrate my early years. I know I have some nieces and nephews and great nieces and nephews who at least casually follow me here and they have told me they love my stories. So here is one to you guys and I hope everyone else enjoys it as it as well. ¬†Maybe you can relate it … Continue reading My Blue Collar Dad..

Part 10 – My Venture Into Asperger’s – Closing Thoughts For This Series..

¬†¬†This is Part 10 of 10 of¬†My Venture Into Asperger‚Äôs.¬†This post is primarily about my closing thoughts of what I have learned about myself and the Asperger’s Syndrome in general. When I discovered that I might be an Aspie I¬†searched the web for info about this condition and found that I share many characteristics with the neurodiverse population. ¬†Before I get into personal details about this topic lets look at the idea of neurodiversity from Wikipedia: Neurodiversity¬†is an approach to¬†learning¬†and¬†disability¬†that suggests that diverse¬†neurological conditions¬†appear as a result of normal¬†variations in the human genome.¬†This¬†portmanteau¬†of neurological and diversity originated in the late … Continue reading Part 10 – My Venture Into Asperger’s – Closing Thoughts For This Series..

Part 9 – My Adventure Into Aspergers – What To Do??

This is Part 9¬†of 10 of¬†My Venture Into Asperger‚Äôs. ¬†This post is primarily¬†about my what should I do with my new found knowledge. After about two months of studies I am convinced that I exhibit¬†in some degree Asperger’s Syndrome characteristics. That conclusion brings up the question “Now What??” What do I do with this new found information? ¬†I am seventy year old today, do I really need any professional pronouncement of its validity? There is no cure for Aspergers as it is not a disease but instead neurological traits. One of the books I read during this study was from … Continue reading Part 9 – My Adventure Into Aspergers – What To Do??

Part 7 – My Venture Into Aspergers – The Aspie Quiz

¬†¬†This is Part 7 of 10 of¬†My Venture Into Asperger‚Äôs.¬† This post is primarily¬†about the Aspie Quiz. After studying this condition for a good while I took the Aspie Quiz. The Quiz is a pre-diognostic tool to help determine if you might be autistic. ¬†The quiz is a group of 50 questions that are rated on a scale of 1 to 6. The answers to the questions are grouped in various categories including: Talent, Perceptions, Communications, Relationships, and Social skills. After completing the quiz I was given the results as shown below. It took some time to really determine what … Continue reading Part 7 – My Venture Into Aspergers – The Aspie Quiz

Part 6 – My Venture Into Asperger’s – Body Language

¬†¬†This is Part 6 of 10 of¬†My Venture Into Asperger‚Äôs.¬†As usual I will start out with a personal story and then show how that links into Asperger‚Äôs. This post is primarily¬†about my body language. I have never thought too much about body language. I know I am told that it is a very significant part of communications but I just don’t see how that is? Since I am now deaf and the auditory world no longer exists I no longer can read the tone of a conversation and I know that is a problem. It is like many conversation here … Continue reading Part 6 – My Venture Into Asperger’s – Body Language

Remembering Don V….

I know the picture here on this 5Star post is not clear or particularly focused but it gets its rating from my memories. It was taken by a small Kodak camera in 1969 and is of my friend Don V. ¬†He was the friend¬†that got me interested in ¬†Bob Dylan and things “folk”. I will always thank him for that. ¬†Even in my deafness I still love those songs floating around in my head. ¬†I occasionally bring out my old 33rpm records to just look at them and remember the times. Don got married soon after he graduated from Purdue. … Continue reading Remembering Don V….

Part 5 – My Venture Into Asperger‚Äôs ‚ÄstEye Contact

This is Part 5 of 10 of¬†My Venture Into Asperger‚Äôs and it is a biggie for me.¬†As usual I will start out with a personal story and then show how that links into Asperger’s. This post is primarily¬†about my struggles with eye contact. To most people eye contact, that is looking into the eyes of the person you are talking to, is a normal process. To me it is quite painful and it always has been. ¬†It is as though I am looking into that person’s soul and that is just someplace I don’t want to go. Whenever I do … Continue reading Part 5 – My Venture Into Asperger‚Äôs ‚ÄstEye Contact

My Visual World…

Being deaf my world is primarily visual. So one of my most endearing hobbies is photography. I got my first 35mm camera right out of college. It, besides my 1970 Mustang, ¬†was my first extravagant purchase. ¬†I ¬†have upgraded cameras many times since then and now have a fully digital GPS enabled one¬†sitting beside me on all of my micro-RV trips and even around the homestead. Most of the posts here at RJsCorner are primarily words ¬†but I do intertwine them with occasional pictures such as in my search of America. ¬†I think it is about time to put more … Continue reading My Visual World…

My Venture Into Asperger’s – Arrogance and Criticism..

¬† ¬†This is Part 4 of 10 of¬†My Venture Into Asperger’s.¬†As usual I will start out with a personal story and then show how that links into my study of this syndrome. This post will among other things be about my struggles with criticism. As a¬†young boy I had troubles fitting in to the group mode. I always felt like I just didn’t belong. Because I had a low self-esteem in those years I ¬†compensated by just being by¬†myself most of the time. ¬†I couldn’t understand the behaviors of my peers so I withdrew from them. ¬†As I grew older … Continue reading My Venture Into Asperger’s – Arrogance and Criticism..

Feminine vs Macho…

¬† ¬†This is Part 2¬†of 10 of My Venture Into Asperger’s. ¬†In my previous¬†post I reported how I was a late-bloomer in the relationship field. This time I want to talk about feminine and ‘macho’ things. Even as a young child¬†macho was a very negative trait to me. ¬†Simply speaking I hated it. ¬†I’m sure the word macho means different¬†things to different people so to the right¬†is the definition that I use. IN my mind macho is almost synonymous¬†with being¬†a bully. There is nothing manly about it. I knew being a boy I was supposed to be macho but the … Continue reading Feminine vs Macho…