My personal encounter with this topic
I thought I would give you this epilogue to expand the story on the final week of the trauma of my wife’s death. I know this story is mostly unique to me, and maybe I am penning it more for my benefit than yours, but I can see something similar possibly happening to you. So, maybe my “lessons learned” can be helpful for you. When … Continue reading End Of Life Trauma #10 – Freeing & Strangling, At The Same Time
I am finally convinced that I am now in the full stage of the grieving process due to my wife’s death in July. It took me a while to get here. I was beginning to wonder if I was actually capable of such emotions. But, now they are coming in floods, it seems. The thing that perhaps finally pushed me here was a simple pamphlet … Continue reading About Emotions #4 – The Grieving Process… Finally
I’m sure most people think of hospice as that short period that ends the suffering of terminal patients. This post will try to explain that this description is simplified at best, and actually somewhat misguided. As my wife continued her final eight days in hospice at our new home at the best senior community in our region, she was without pain because of the regular … Continue reading End of Life Trauma #9 – The Final Week.
These next two post in the series will probably be the most difficult to write. But they were also the time I came across the most empathic person I have ever known. I finished off the last post on this End-Of-Life Trauma series by telling you that my wife was being kicked out of the Hospice House because she was not dying fast enough. Of … Continue reading End of Life Trauma Part 8 – Hospice (continued)
It seems that I am now in some new stage of grief from my wife’s recent death. It has been two months today that she drew her last breath. I think up till now I have just been consumed with all the many things that have to happen after a spouse passes to really have time to mourn. Lately, I seem to be getting very … Continue reading Stages of Grief…
We are closing in on the last few posts about “End Of Life Trauma”. I hope this series is at least a little helpful to you in understanding these matters. While I had some exceptional support during this “Hospice” period, it was one of the most stressful things I have ever had to deal with in my life. As I mentioned in my last post … Continue reading End of Life Trauma Part 7 – Hospice
This is a continuing series about the end-of-life trauma of my recently departed wife. I was totally unprepared for what I would encounter during this 78-day period. I post this series to maybe prepare some of you for the same eventuality. All of us have to die sometime. Some of us go peacefully in our sleep, and some take months, even years, to pass. As … Continue reading End of Life Trauma Part 6 – The Final Hospital Stay
This is part 5 of the 78 Day end-of-life trauma of my wife. After three weeks in a rehabilitation/nursing home, my wife absolutely demanded that she go home! She simply could not tolerate another day in the nursing home. At that point, it was either go “against medical advice” (AMA) or somehow convince the staff there to authorize a release. At first, they were not … Continue reading End of Life Trauma Part 5 – At Home Care
I never thought I would describe myself as being a victim of PTSD, but when thinking about what I went through during the end-of-life three-months with my wife, the description seems to fit. That is what this post is all about. I am glad to see that PTSD is no longer confined to what a soldier faces on the battlefield. It rightly applies to so … Continue reading PTSD…
Before I get into the main topic of this post, I need to fill you in on some of the things that brought it on. After two weeks in the hospital, part of it trying to stabilize my wife’s badly damaged heart and another to fight the life-threatening gall bladder infection, they deemed her stable enough to go into a “rehabilitation” center. The question was, … Continue reading End of Life Trauma Part 4 – The Nursing Home
Today’s post is about doctors and my interactions with them during the first two weeks of my wife’s two and a half months’ ordeal with end-of-life issues. I will start off by telling you that it was an extremely confusing process. On the second day at the hospital, I met with the first doctor. He didn’t give me his name or why he was her … Continue reading End Of Life Trauma – Part 3 Doctors, Doctors, Everywhere
This is part 2 of my wife’s two-and-a-half month ordeal with end-of-life trauma. My wife’s two-week hospital stay was in May, so the pandemic was beginning to ease up. Most businesses in my area had dropped the mask requirement for vaccinated people. We were vaccinated in early March, so most of our paranoid fears were moot by this time. But, it seems the hospital was … Continue reading End Of Life Trauma – Part 2 Pandemic Rules…
This is the first of I don’t know how many posts, documenting my two and a half months of being consumed by healthcare issues relating to the last days of my wife’s life. Why am I doing this? I am doing this because I was almost totally unprepared for what was going to happen, and I hope by giving you my story, you will be … Continue reading End Of Life Trauma – Part 1 The ER
I have been away from RJsCorner for more than two months now dealing with health issues of my beloved wife. I will start off with the end and then take you through the process to how we got here. My wife of 36 years passed away on Wednesday and was buried yesterday. Yeah, we had our spats like all married couples did, but she was … Continue reading End Of Life Trauma – Starting At The End
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