EPS#3 – Starry Night & A Mini Meltdown

For this week’s “Every Picture Has A Story”, I give you Starry Night by Vincent Van Gough. The story behind the picture is very emotional for me. I don’t really remember when I first saw the picture above, but it immediately drew me in. It was just something about all the crude swirls. When I read about Van Gough’s life the hook went in deeper. … Continue reading EPS#3 – Starry Night & A Mini Meltdown

RetComLife – The Second Shoe – Making Things Better

Yesterday’s post was about one of the two things I am doing to basically change where I am going with RetComLife. Today’s post is the second shoe I don’t want to be one of those people who simply complains about things, but yes, I do find many things to complain about here on RJsCorner. One of the categories that houses the most complaints is likely … Continue reading RetComLife – The Second Shoe – Making Things Better

RetComLife – Stories About Fitting In (aka becoming one of the gang)

I now have over 40 posts in the category of RetComLife (retirement community life), so I have decided to now forego the numbers in the title line. My RetComLife posts up until now, have been about the “dos and don’ts” and possible choices of selecting a place to live in our senior years, or finding the right place for a loved one. After much search, … Continue reading RetComLife – Stories About Fitting In (aka becoming one of the gang)

RetComLife – I Am A Forward Thinker…

I am a forward thinker, and rarely a status-quo type guy. That often gets me in trouble here at my retirement community. All of my life I have been in the “Mr. Fix-It” mode. I am always looking to how to make things better. In my mind, there is no situation that can’t stand improvement. I think many of us baby boomers grew up with … Continue reading RetComLife – I Am A Forward Thinker…

RetComLife #40 -“Active” Retirement Communities

It’s been a while since I posted in the RetComLife project. Sorry… If there is one lesson I can get you to realize in my RetComLife series it is, if you are an active senior you should probably seek out an “active” retirement community for your first retirement home. During my exploration of retirement communities in the last year, I can tell you that the … Continue reading RetComLife #40 -“Active” Retirement Communities

Without Death, Living Would Be Unbearable.

Now that my “Love of my Life” series is completed, I want to end this week’s posts on a related topic. Almost everyone knows the old saying Everyone wants to go to heaven, but no one wants to die to get here I read that to say that we are afraid we won’t stack up to the qualifications to pass the pearly gates. Or maybe, … Continue reading Without Death, Living Would Be Unbearable.

RetComLife # 39 – “The Decision”

Procrastination, overthinking, whatever you want to call it, is what I typically do. I recognize I overthink, in fact, I overthink about overthinking. It’s time to make a decision! I have decided that I will stay where I am and will visit that decision on an annual basis. So, I am calling this place “Home”. It is where I will live now and for the … Continue reading RetComLife # 39 – “The Decision”

RetComLife #38 – Sedentary…

I know I don’t need to use a big word here. I could have just said “couch potato”. But, since I am a wordsmith, I am always on the lookout for the most descriptive description. How does “sedentary” fit in with Retirement Community Life? That is what this post is all about. During my recent On-The-Road trip that covered 6,000 miles of the South and … Continue reading RetComLife #38 – Sedentary…

RetComLife #37 – Eliminating Possibilities

Eliminating possibilities is how decisions are often made. There is seldom a “sure thing” answer to any problem. What we, or at least I, have to do is to start by eliminating things until there is only one choice. That is what I am doing right now. I spent 3+ weeks traveling around much of this country to try to decide where I want to … Continue reading RetComLife #37 – Eliminating Possibilities

RetComLife #36 – A Different Mindset…

It was a year ago today that started the beginning of the end for my wife. She had just suffered her 4th and most severe heart attack that would in 78 days result in her death. Those 78 days were the most stressful of my life! Being an Aspie I had more emotional breakdown during that time than I thought was even possible. For me, … Continue reading RetComLife #36 – A Different Mindset…

RetComLife#35 – Outside My Comfort Zone

I have decided to use the upcoming lifetime roadtrip to move out of my comfort zone and look for alternative areas of the country for my retirement community life. Except for four years in New Jersey, and a few months in Guadalajara Mexico, I have spent my life in Indiana, but I have almost no roots here anymore, so maybe it is time to get … Continue reading RetComLife#35 – Outside My Comfort Zone

RetComLife # 34 – Starting To Have Some Serious Doubts

I am starting to have my doubts whether I want to make my permanent home here in my present retirement community. That is what this post is all about. First, I am paying a lot of money for things I currently have little use for. My retirement community costs over $40,000/year. That is about average for my area, but it is at least a couple … Continue reading RetComLife # 34 – Starting To Have Some Serious Doubts

Until It’s Gone

This post like many, came to me in my daily morning shower. Over the past many years I have come to realize that I am a “morning” person. Most of my creative juices come during the first five or six hours after awakening each day. Before I got out of my shower, I had already formulated the storyline for this post. I usually try to … Continue reading Until It’s Gone

RetComLife#33 – I Am Tired Of …

Here I am sitting at my keyboard again, when I should be having dinner. Let me explain a little more. Some of you know that I have Aspie traits that make social situations uncomfortable. For that reason, I usually go to dinner here in my retirement community during the last fifteen minutes of the meal hour. I go down then because there is usually a … Continue reading RetComLife#33 – I Am Tired Of …

RetComLife #32 – Joining the 21st Century

My retirement community consumes hundreds of pounds of paper daily. Each of the 400 or so residents gets a dozen or so pages a day of notices/menus/activities/etc. related to our community life. I think maybe I hit a sore spot by bringing up this fact. Here we are 22 years into the new century, and they seem to be stuck in the 20th Century. Being … Continue reading RetComLife #32 – Joining the 21st Century

RetComLife #31 – The Second Day Cafe

It has been about two weeks now that my retirement community took away the cafe dining option and brought back the “sit and wait” as the only way to use my $350 monthly meal allocation. February was the only month in the eight months I have been here that I used even close to all of that monthly allotment. Before that, I seldom used more … Continue reading RetComLife #31 – The Second Day Cafe

RetComLife #30 – The Lucy Moment…

I want to tell you a little story about my retirement community home. Due to Omicron, they shut down the “sit and wait” dining room service in February and replaced it with a cafeteria type carry-out service. That proved to be almost ideal for me, as I don’t have to make every meal here an uncomfortable social event. Due to my Aspie traits I don’t … Continue reading RetComLife #30 – The Lucy Moment…

RetComLife #29 – Some Disappointments

I have been having some disappointments here at my retirement community lately. The main one are the dining options. I have a $350 monthly stipend for meals for each month. Until this month, I seldom used over $100 of that amount. When Omicron came on the scene in late January, the eat-in dining room was closed and replaced with a walk-up cafe option. That made … Continue reading RetComLife #29 – Some Disappointments

RetComLife #28 – Homestead vs Community Mindset

I have been in my retirement community now for over seven months, but much of me still remains at my homestead. RetComLife is much different from where I had been for a decade. It is more difficult than I imaged to throw off the homestead mindset. Where I was once surrounded by peaceful forests, I am now surrounded by my fellow retirement community citizens. Where … Continue reading RetComLife #28 – Homestead vs Community Mindset

RetComLive #26 – Who’s Who??

I am finding that one of the hardest things about living in my retirement community is learning who is who. I’m not certain, but I think there are about 400 of us living here, and after six months I can maybe put six names to faces. The staff always wear their name tags, so knowing them by name is easy-peasy. I am getting off-topic here … Continue reading RetComLive #26 – Who’s Who??

RetComLife #25 – LOCKDOWN!!

We are in almost total lockdown at my retirement community now. The dining room is shut down, and they have even stopped chauffeuring people to the local college basketball games. That was the one exemption that was left after last week’s notification. Don’t ask me the logic of that, but I am glad to see that it is now included with all the rest of … Continue reading RetComLife #25 – LOCKDOWN!!

RetComLife #24 – Lockdown & Communications

Today’s post of my view of my retirement community is about the latest lockdown and how my community is communicating with the residents. The Omicron version of COVID-19 has much of the country running scared right now, and my retirement community is no exception. The dining room is all but inaccessible again, at least to me. Social things have been cancelled. Everyone must wear masks … Continue reading RetComLife #24 – Lockdown & Communications

RetComLife#22- How Many Will Need To Join Retirement Communities?

A recent study from the Center for Retirement Research at Boston College found that 38 percent of 65-year-olds will develop moderate needs, almost one-quarter will have severe needs, 22 percent will have minimal needs and 17 percent will have no care needs. I don’t know the new math, but that says that about two-thirds of us Baby Boomers will soon require care that most families … Continue reading RetComLife#22- How Many Will Need To Join Retirement Communities?

RetComLife #19 – Things That Make Me Happy

One thing you should be paying attention to when you are choosing a retirement community is the weekly activities. Are there any that interest you or make you happy? I am still pretty active in my life away from my retirement community, but there will come a time when I will no longer be able to drive and the freedom that entails. When that happens, … Continue reading RetComLife #19 – Things That Make Me Happy

RetComLife #18 – Technology-Driven Improvements in Dining.

We Baby Boomers were the first generation to easily travel. Airplanes, the Interstate system and such allowed us to experience lots of regional and international foods that were not available to the previous generations who are presently the majority in senior communities. As we Baby Boomers retire we will demand more from retirement communities, especially in the area of cuisine. We will demand more than … Continue reading RetComLife #18 – Technology-Driven Improvements in Dining.

RetComLife #17 – Other Choices In Food Services

One thing that annoys me is that the sit-down dining option which is basically the only option aside from after the meal carry-outs in my retirement community wastes too much of my time. Having a full-service sit down dining is nice once in a while in that special restaurant, but you wouldn’t appreciate it for every meal you eat. I know many think we retirement … Continue reading RetComLife #17 – Other Choices In Food Services

RetComLife #16 – Cloud Kitchens & Café Dining

My retirement community is struggling to keep the dining services up to their usual standards. Wait staff is nearly impossible to find during this pandemic, so the salaried staff are having to provide that service in addition to their usual responsibilities. That is putting stress on everyone. The fact that the meals here cater almost exclusively to those who like bland unseasoned foods is a … Continue reading RetComLife #16 – Cloud Kitchens & Café Dining

RetComLife #15 – It Doesn’t Just Happen

The quality of any team doesn’t just happen. It is accomplished by the quality of the leadership. I know that from personal experience in the corporate world. You treat your team with respect, and they will gladly go the extra mile for you. That seems to be the case with my retirement community team. I spent thirty years in the corporate world in a half … Continue reading RetComLife #15 – It Doesn’t Just Happen

RetComLife #14 – You Have Got To Get Used To The Dying…

If you live in a retirement community, especially if it is also a Lifecare community, you have got to get used to the frequent presence of ambulances. Especially, if you are like me, and happen to face the delivery/pick-up entrance of the facility. I have heard many comments from future retirees about not wanting to live with only old people. There are a few alternatives … Continue reading RetComLife #14 – You Have Got To Get Used To The Dying…

RetComLife # 13 – It’s Not About Where

By almost all counts, I have been happy living in my retirement community home for the last three months. It has the things that make my life easier. The staff here is extraordinary. I love my cozy apartment, it fits me like a glove. My favorite part might be the walking path. That 0.66 mile route has resulted in a healthier lifestyle. There is a … Continue reading RetComLife # 13 – It’s Not About Where