Having My Say

In its 18 years of existence, one of the cores of RJsCorner has been and always will be “Having My Say” where I write about what’s on my mind. I always do that in 500 words or less.


The phrase “Having My Say” came from a book I read entitled “Having Our Say – The Delany Sister’s First 100 Years”

For the last twenty years, I have re-read the book each year. This is one of the most insightful books I have ever read. It was published in 1994 when both sisters were over 100 years old. These two African-American women lived through an entire century and had a lot to say about their lives.

Here are some quotes from the book

[on how they have lived so long] We never had husbands to worry us to death.

I’ve already helped raise my 10 brothers and sisters, I feel like I’ve raised the whole world, I don’t want to have kids.

“All I ever wanted in my life was to be treated as an individual. I have succeeded, to some extent. At least I’m sure that in the Lord’s eyes, I am an individual. I am not a “colored” person, or a “Negro” person, in God’s eyes. I am just me! The Lord won’t hold it against me that I’m colored because He made me that way! He thinks I am beautiful! And so do I, even with all my wrinkles! I am beautiful!

I was torn between two issues—colored, and women’s rights. But it seemed to me that no matter how much I had to put up with as a woman, the bigger problem was being colored. People looked at me and the first thing they saw was Negro, not woman.

Those were hard times, after slavery days. Much of the South was scarred by the Civil War and there wasn’t much food or supplies among the whites, let alone the Negroes. Most of the slaves, when they were freed, wandered about the countryside like shell-shocked soldiers.

Somebody asked us if we remembered seeing the Statue of Liberty as we pulled into the harbor. Tell you the truth, we didn’t care too much about it. The Statue of Liberty was important to white European immigrants. It was a symbol to them. We knew it wasn’t meant for us.

The whites resented the Negroes taking over Harlem, but eventually all of them had to serve Negroes—including at those white-owned restaurants—or go out of business, because after a while there was nobody left but Negroes. White folks had run out of Harlem like fleas from a dead dog.


Another core is:

You could almost call this a life focus for me.


Finally, Let’s Get This Straight

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