I am quickly approaching my 5500th post here at RJsCorner. I never thought I had that much in me, but I still have the usual queue waiting to be written. Of course, being an IT guy, I have a database app for quick thoughts about potential posts. The count on that is presently 109 thoughts. I’m certain this extensive list is part of my Autism traits, but that simply is what it is. It’s how I manage my life and RJsCorner.
When I pull a thought out of my database queue, it is generally just a few sentences and maybe a link to an article I read. Finally getting to the purpose of this post, it amazes me how many times these post ideas get turned totally around before they are completed. After further contemplation on the thought, my brain just has other ideas for the post currently in front of me.
An example of this was a post yesterday entitled “No One Stays With You Permanently” It was supposed to be about how married couples should prepare themselves for managing the details of life when one of them dies. I was going to talk about how my wife would have been totally unprepared to handle the financial things if I died before her.
What it ended up being was a post about how I still feel married, even though it has been 2+ years since she died. The “Till death do us part”, just doesn’t seem to apply to me. I can’t tell you how many posts go through this same transition. My mind just has other ideas when I finally sit down to get the post ready for publication.
Just like life itself, many things we expect to happen turn out the opposite of what we imagined. After so many failed dating experiences, I never expected to get married, but I did, and we had 35 years together. I know the word for this is serendipity.
My life just seems to be filled with serendipity. I think that is because I when I see changes/challenges in life, I look at them as opportunities to make things better. I just wish more people were able to look at the world with this perspective.
(did you notice the point in the post where the subject changed??) 🙃
RJ's Corner - Having My Say 
I completely agree. Too many of us follow the road we think we should stay on, only to disover a detour that holds magic and fulfillment.
I always saw myself as a strictly right- brained person: logical, a rule-follower, comfortable with a set routine.
Only after taking one of those detours a few years ago did I realize my left-brain creative side actually existed and demanded attention. My newfound delight in painting followed.
My life would be much less satisfying if I had stuck to the path I thought totally defined (and limited) me.
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It is funny how quickly things can change. As I wrote in this post, when I finally gave up on the idea of dating, my soon-to-be future wife came along. I was just tired of going through all the masking that I thought I needed to do to attract a mate. Of course, that one date changed about everything in my life.
Last week, I finally vowed to just give up with the social scene at my RetCom, as it is just too punishing and stressful. Today, when I went to lunch, one of the residents waved to invite me to his table of three. It turned out to be a very pleasant meal. One of the residents at the table had her daughter for lunch. She surprised me when, after I told the group I was deaf, she started signing to me. That was more signing than I have seen in the last 2+ years. It turns out that she is a special-ed teacher and that she often deaf students. Just when I totally give up on something, then these types of things happen.
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