The Most Toxic Society…

Some people, particularly those in Western Europe and the Scandinavian countries say the US has become the most toxic society.


Where else do people die for a lack of basic medicine? What other country has a mass shooting per day? If we’re painfully honest, America excels at hate now — whether blank indifference or impassioned cruelty. Everybody seems to hate everybody else, perpetually — not at an individual level, maybe, but certainly at a group level. It’s a set of little tribes — blacks, whites, Asians, liberals, conservatives, rich, poor, young, old — who seem to genuinely despise one another.

via Why Americans Love to Hate Each Other (And Hate to Love Each Other)

Unfortunately, throughout the ages the loudest, most vulgar voices get almost all the attention and when most of the US media outlets spend the vast majority of their time on those voices who can blame those in other countries who think we are all bitter, negative and violent. Yes, there is hatred in America that has not been there in recent memory, but for the most part, the majority of us are just going about living our lives as we have always done. That part of America doesn’t make the daily news in other countries.

While I think that the writer of the quote above used the words that he did because he knew they would strike alarm in those who read them. He wanted to get our attention and for the most part, he certainly did that.

I certainly hope and am totally convinced that these ugly times, even if they are limited to a slice of our population,  will be an anomaly in history instead of becoming the new norm. It just has to be. I am praying that the mid-term election coming up validates that hope.

A Little More Cheery…

I decided to let my creative juices flow a little more lately and attacked my blog header to make it a little more cheery. I know most of you guys probably don’t even notice the header but I don’t think you can avoid this one. 🙂  There is enough in the world today that is simply awful dreary. We need to let the sun shine more in our lives. This is a meager attempt to do a little of that.

The main themes for my blog are “Question Everything” and my “InSearchOfAmerica” project.  I am adding another theme to that list and it is about complaining.  It seems that everyone, me included, has a myriad of things to complain about in this world today.  Lord knows with the narcissist in the Oval Office our complaints in many areas are certainly justified. Additionally, for decades now the quality of life continues going down instead of up for many of us. We have a right to complain about that but what good does just complaining do?

2017-11-11_09-24-18.pngComplaining without doing something about it is just having a pity party or just plain whining.  The upper right side of the header has the same message just in a different way.  Complaining is not a conversation after all.  So if you insists on complaining then you also need to start doing something constructive about your complaints. Offer solutions instead of just whining. No one likes whiners.

Looking at this from a higher level, one of the worst things you can do with your life is to live it in negativity. Until you find something to be enthusiastic about, your life often lacks purpose. Maybe you need to turn off your TV and look around you for things to be thankful for. Just don’t dwell on the negative too frequently.

Of course I need to take my own advice in this area and I am trying to do just that.  I have a lot to be thankful for. But ignoring the problems around me is not the answer either.  Facing them head on with a personal action plan no matter how meager is much better than just whining about them.  That is one of my new mantras in life. I seem to have many of those don’t I?  I guess you could call this new resolve an early New Year’s resolution but since those are most often forgotten I don’t want to do that. I’ll just call it a new perspective… how about that?