Not Appreciated…

One of the things that bothered me much when I was in the corporate world was that I often felt unappreciated. I put in more hours and produced more output than most of my fellow employees but seldom got any praise from my bosses. All of us need a pat on the back once in a while. Most of my bosses just seemed incapable of giving me that, at least to the extent expected.

So, when I came across this post from my friends over at the Drabble it got my attention.

We live in a new age, but old unspoken traditions trail us like a snake. Your smile disappears when your boss approaches her instead of you. They share a giggle about nothing. His touch on her arm lasted longer than it should. He praises her work as yours receives none.

You try to stow the fire raging inside knowing your seventy hours a week meant nothing to him. The money you earned for the company meant nothing compared to short skirts and tight blouses. You nearly boil over and unleash your anger when he announces your name. You made partner.

It’s nice that the story above ended up on a happy note. Not all of them do. I’m sure all of us have workplace stories we could give as examples of being unappreciated in the workplace. Many probably include sexual harassment.

I know things have changed pretty rapidly in the last decade when it comes to the workplace, so maybe I have no idea of the conditions. But, there are some things that just don’t change due to time. Appreciation is one thing and reward is another. It seems that what has changed is the very creative job titles around today. No one is just a secretary, factory worker, or office worker anymore. One of the TV shows I watch on a regular basis, the people hunting for a new house always give their job titles when they describle themselves. It takes a few seconds to translate the “double-speak” into job description from my work days. 🙂


  1. Yes you were not appreciated. It is typical of any situation that there are people who know how to speak up and get the acolytes and those who do not.
    But–What you are describing was sexual harassment. It is slowly changing in the workplace, but it is very slow.
    Imagine how it was for women during that time ? My sister (BS engineering) was told, when wanting to interview with a new computer company, to wear a (shorter) skirt, a (lower) cut blouse, high heels and black panty hose. Those were the women who got hired. There were no women in the door who did not do it. She did and got hired.Then, after working as the secretary (fighting off the boss) for two years, with her title as developer, she asked if she could work on a team. Nope, but he would put her name on stuff. She was way too distracting for the men on the project.
    One step forward, two back. I really appreciate that women, like my sister, continued to push so my daughter and grand daughter can report stuff like that.


  2. Hi JanBo, thanks for the thoughts. The blocked in area of this post was from the Drabble blog and not my words. But yes it was very much sexual harassment, even if she did eventually get the promotion.

    I worked in the corporate world between 1970 – 2000 in an engineering organization and I can say they I never saw a female engineer there in any of the clothes you described? Since I am not very adept at the social scene maybe some of that stuff happened and I didn’t have a clue. 🙂


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