Are We Praying To A Narcissist God?

With this post I am going to bring back my Sunday talks about spirituality and my enlightened view of things religious. This post is about praying to God.

I don’t know how many times I heard the words “I will pray for you.” Many times it was in relationship to some distressing health event. Maybe my Aspie side is taking over here, but I just don’t think God needs our prayer to do whatever he wants. It is almost as if people believe that God takes a poll to decide if he will intervene. If enough prayers are received he will do what they ask, otherwise forget it.

Does God demand our prayers. I know the current Oval Office occupant can’t get through a week without holding a “How Great I Am” rally. He absolutely feeds off the adoration of his followers. I just don’t believe that God is like that. If we have to pray to God to make something happen, then what we are really doing is asking God to save us from God. I don’t think God needs our prayer. period.

Of course, I see things differently when it comes to prayer. I believe that prayer works by unlocking empathy in others. It binds us together in relationships. I just don’t believe that prayer about healing, or anything else, changes God’s mind. Instead, it is intended to change our mind and maybe provoke us or others into action.

Prayer is to help us realize that we are not in this alone. It gives us a way to try to move beyond our current selves. Praying to God is, at least in my mind, a way to be thankful for what we have and to treat others as we want them to treat us. That is a truth that the world emphatically needs today.

Praying is for our benefit… not God’s

4 thoughts on “Are We Praying To A Narcissist God?

  1. I have come to understand prayer as a way to keep my thoughts focused on what God wants from me, and that is be loving and empathetic to others. My prayer is really a way to bring to the forefront what is important or bothering me, not to petition God for favors or a miracle.


  2. I agree, RJ and Bob. I remember when I was first diagnosed at 40 with the cancer that had killed my mother on her 45th birthday. A neighbor I barely knew asked if I needed help. I told her, no, that my brother and sister-in-law were taking care of my children and a good friend and her husband were also helping me and my husband. She told me not to take her blessing away by not allowing her to help. She was offering in the same way she offered prayers. The exchange made me think differently about her and about the whole experience of being prayed for and also praying for others, separate from the teachings of any one church or God, narcissistic or not.


    1. Thanks for yet another example, Linda. Most people mean well with their prayers, so I don’t say anything to them. It is just what they have been taught and never questioned. The purpose of prayer is to change the person doing the praying, not the person being prayed over. Like the AA prayer, it’s important to know the difference.


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