Here I am almost 8 months since my wife’s heart attack that ended her life, and I am still dealing with these end-of-life issues. One of the many things you have to do when you lose a spouse is to change who your healthcare power-of-attorney is. That is what I am going through right now, and I think this, and signing my new will, will finish all this up, or at least I hope so. I never dreamed that it would take this long. But, that is a story for another post. This one is about whom you select at your healthcare-POA and what you want them to know.
Since I have no children, I ended up choosing my niece for this task. We sat down recently and had a long discussion about those last few days of life. My wife was terribly afraid of death, and that just prolonged the suffering that she and I had to endure. I made it clear that I don’t want to repeat her process. I said, “just pull the plug” and she humorously strongly agreed. With that, I knew I picked the right person.
To me, the quality of life is infinitely more important than the quantity. I simply don’t want to stretch out my life locked to a nursing home bed for months or even weeks. Just pull the plug.
I don’t fear death. I have lived a pretty good life, so I’m ready. My father died two years older than I am now. Strangely, his father and grandfather did the same. 🥴 So, for several years now I have become settled that I will likely follow their paths. I kinda think of the time I have left as “borrowed”. That doesn’t scare me except for the fact that I don’t want to waste any of what I have left. If I should live beyond that date, I will continue to live toward my new life’s purpose as I will post about next week.
Anyway, next week I will finally sign all the legal documents, and then it is just on to making the best use of the time that the Lord gives me.
I like the saying that everyone want’s to get to heaven but no one wants to die to get there.
As usual I have a different view of that.