Some people go through life with little or no changes. They live in the house they inherited from their parents. They have never been away from the area they grew up. Change just doesn’t happen to them, UNTIL IT DOES…
Adjusting to serious unexpected changes tests the metal of all of us. How we respond to those events is up to each of us. I can’t say it was totally unexpected that my wife died eight months ago, but it still rocked my life. My reality for the last 10 years has been “caregiver”. Since 2011 my wife’s health condition has deteriorated. It was one event after another with regular visits to the emergency room, and frequent surgeries. Her fourth heart attack with corresponding kidney injury, gull bladder and throat infections finally meant her demise. I thought I was ready for the change her death would bring on, but like so many other changes, I was pretty much wrong.
It’s easy to make a bunch of plans for some future date, but when the rubber hits the road, those plans usually come up short. That is what has been happening to me now. I am in a retirement community where one day is pretty much like the next. Yes, there is a pretty good list of activities, but none interests me very much right now.
I thought that once my “caregiver” days were over that I would find a new, more exciting life, or at least one not as boring as before. That hasn’t happened yet. I need to do things to make that happen. I am doing that.
When sudden changes come, it is up to each of us to deal with them the best way we know how. The best answer is never to just sit back trying to live in the past as if nothing happened. Your life is only what you make it to be. I have to keep reminding myself of that fact.