Understanding body language, things like facial expressions and tone of voice are important for social interactions. But many of us Aspies are just not very good at those type things. To us, it is a strange and mysterious thing so we often tend to misinterpret what is actually being communicated.
Without recognizing these things our response to some conversations seems inappropriate. We generally take many things literally and based on the facts in front of us instead of as they may be intended.
Of course, I have a more difficult time of tone of language than most Aspies since I don’t hear any tone. Being deaf makes that impossible and that is compounded when I am reading sign language as my primary input. While signing most often gets the basic point across, it just doesn’t help with nuances at all. One sign can often mean many different things and it is up to each of us to discern which meaning is the most appropriate for a given thought. That alone makes for some confusing dialogs. Put together it makes some social interactions almost impossible.
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Did you know that the same things you have pointed out as Aspie are also very closely aligned with the profoundly gifted? Instead of being a negative personality trait- it is how profoundly gifted work with the world to make order in their own mind. These traits could be co morbid–but knowing this could give you a completely different perspective. Profoundly gifted, before the 1990’s, were often pushed into STEM fields because they (often) could not support themselves in the arts.
I’ve been working with some profoundly gifted kids lately and woke up thinking I needed to tell you my research findings.
Thanks for your input. Yeah, the list of proabable Aspies is sobering: Bill Gates and Lincoln are among them.
I am aware of the link to gifted and aspie traits and that is something to take pride in. Being an Aspie is not about being put down as abnormal but really something to celebrate for the most part.
But I do recognize that there are Aspies who are severely affected as well. As with most of the autism spectrum, aspie traits vary widely across the population.