The Trimesters Of Life – according to RJ

I think of myself as among other things an amateur philosopher, psychologist, and altruist. I don’t mind putting my thoughts out there alongside the deep thinkers in these areas. This post is about what I have come to realize are the three basic areas of a person’s life, or at least my life as far as it has played out so far. But, I kinda think you might also see yourself in this study. Putting myself out there is what RJsCorner is meant to be. Always pushing the edge and thinking for myself 🧐

So, here goes…

The one thing that is a constant across these three parts of life is that we must always be in the learning mode. If you ever get the idea that you have learned enough, or that you are just too tired of learning, then you will have no possibility of success in the “Being” part of life. I will explain that more in the next post.

Let’s get right to it. Here are the three parts of life.

Learning, Earning, & Being

I – The Learning To “Learn” Years

These years are usually between the ages of 2 to 22 for many of us. That is the period of time that we learn what it means to be human. It gives us a preliminary idea of what the next two stages might look like. Learning to learn is the time when we are exposed to different truths so to speak. We initially learn from our parents or siblings how to walk, how to express our wants and needs and the beginning of whom we will become. Then starts the formal process of learning. For most this is done through grades 1 through 12, and then often followed by two to six years of more targeted education.

But, learning to learn is much more than reading, writing, and arithmetic. It is more about the learning process itself. Perhaps the most important part of these years it to accept that we will never know all the things we need to know. In fact, if we do it right, the more we learn, the more we know there is to learn. It is an endless circle and a never-ending journey, not a destination.

II – The Learning To “Earn” Years

These years are where we start to accumulate wealth that will sustain us for the rest of our lives. I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Often times who we end up being just doesn’t pay enough to sustain us, so these are the years when we accumulate wealth in order to eventually “be”. Since our earning years usually cover less than a third of our lives it is best to be frugal during earning years so that they might fund us for the rest of our lives.

Some, but not many of us will manage to overlap this phase with the “being” years. In the process of earning they find their heart felt purpose, their being. For many of us getting to our “being” years takes a lot of understanding and wisdom that just doesn’t happen as soon as most would like it to.

III The Learning to “Be Years

If the first two stages were done right, the last stage is by far the most rewarding. We should always be seeking who we want to “be” in our time on this earth. Sometimes our “be” years are actually a series of different directions in order to find the final goal. “Being” is a process that is mostly trial and error. What we think we want to be oftentimes changes as we accumulate more knowledge. I didn’t find who I wanted to “be” until pretty late in life. But, I guess as they say, late is better than never isn’t it?

Being who we were meant to be is finally answering the age-old question “what do we want to do when we grow up“. It is about fulfilling our destiny and giving our life its true meaning.

Let’s wrap things up

The actual time in each of these period varies greatly from one individual to another. For some there might be some serious overlap. For others there will likely be unproductive gaps between the three stages. A lucky few will discover who we are destined to be early on and live it more fully than most.

 

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