Keeping Things In Perspective

I think it’s time for your last Aspie lesson for 2020. 🥸

I, like everyone else to one degree or another, get things seriously out of perspective. I let little things take up too much of my thinking life. My brain seems to constantly run in overdrive, a dozen things at a time. Many of those things don’t really deserve the space they take up, but it seems I have little control over that. I don’t know if this is primarily due to my Aspie traits or not? Now that I know so many of my “peculiarities” might be attributable to that condition I probably dump too many other things in that pot.

I know I have melt downs over some things that most neurotypicals (NT) easily brush off. For those of you who might not be familiar with that word I put the definition here. I have some serious reactions to certain smells and tastes. One of those is mint. I simply can’t tolerate the taste or smell. It drives me nuts! It overwhelms me!!

I try to put things in the perspective of NTs but often just can’t accomplish that. I don’t like large groups, never have. I guess that is a good thing now days as I am less likely to get or give the virus. I know I am too blunt in what I often say, but it never occurs to me at the moment or even after saying it. The biggie for me in relationships is that I have trouble understanding others feelings or even sometimes my own. Love is something I just can’t get a handle on.

With all this in mind I thought I would show you a simple figure of typical Aspie traits that I recently found. Of course, this is by no means all of them but it does a pretty good job of some of the traits that are common to most Aspies.

I want to close out this post with a quote from one of the books that has helped me understand Aspergers at this late stage in my life.

Many of the problems that Aspies have stem from our logical minds that have difficulty understanding and accepting illogical social norms, written and unwritten rules, and fashion statements. Our direct and honest comments may seem abrasive, but we do not intend to cause an argument or hurt another person’s feelings. As a result of each misunderstanding or argument, our self-esteem takes a knock, so, if we are diagnosed very late in life, it is likely that in the meantime we will have experienced mental ill health and developed low self-esteem; therefore, obtaining a diagnosis as early as possible would normally benefit our well-being.

Wylie, Philip. Very Late Diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder): How Seeking a Diagnosis in Adulthood Can Change Your Life (p. 31). Jessica Kingsley Publishers. Kindle Edition.

Some of this I’m sure shows up in my posts here at RJsCorner. I have reported frequently about my low self-esteem in my early life. I know I often see things from a different perspective. But I think that is an asset to my life and my blogging. I just don’t hold back like all you NTs out there. That’s just who I am. 😇