I have spent almost an entire lifetime trying to figure out why I am so different from many others. It wasn’t until a handful of years ago that I discovered Asperger’s Syndrome, and many of those questions were answered. Being an Aspie is not about being defective, it is just about looking at life with a different perspective. People with neurological differences are called neurodiverse, … Continue reading What If Neurodiversity Was The “Normal”?
This post like many, came to me in my daily morning shower. Over the past many years I have come to realize that I am a “morning” person. Most of my creative juices come during the first five or six hours after awakening each day. Before I got out of my shower, I had already formulated the storyline for this post. I usually try to … Continue reading Until It’s Gone
Fitting in is a cultural expectation. From birth, we are told that this is the way you get along with others. It starts with your parents telling you how to behave, and, if you let it, it continues throughout your life. We are told you must wear a mask and hide who you really are so that you fit in. I have been doing a … Continue reading Fitting In…
I read a recent article over at The Medium about people, like me, who refuse to give up the Aspie label and be dumped into the ocean wide autism spectrum. Here is a quote from that article. (Click HERE to see the rest) The Asperger’s class is overwhelmingly white people who have been given enough advantage to turn a profit on what they couldn’t stop … Continue reading Hanging On To The Asperger Label
If you are a regular here at RJsCorner, you know that I have said that I had more meltdowns during the last week of my wife’s life than I thought I could endure. They came so frequently that I began feeling that if they don’t stop, I don’t want to live any longer. In this post, I will try to give you an idea of … Continue reading One Last Look At My Aspie Meltdowns…
I have made it no secret here on RJsCorner that I struggled through life trying to figure out what was wrong with me. My very narcissistic mother who abandoned me when I was nine years old did nothing but amplify those negative feelings I had about myself. In hindsight, I am kind of glad she left, as I don’t know how much damage she would … Continue reading Finding Yourself In Your Differences
I thought I would give you this epilogue to expand the story on the final week of the trauma of my wife’s death. I know this story is mostly unique to me, and maybe I am penning it more for my benefit than yours, but I can see something similar possibly happening to you. So, maybe my “lessons learned” can be helpful for you. When … Continue reading End Of Life Trauma #10 – Freeing & Strangling, At The Same Time
I have done a lot of reading about Asperger’s Syndrome and convinced that I have had many of those typical traits throughout my life, but only in the last decade found that they had a name. Now, the experts have decided that Asperger’s doesn’t exist anymore, it has been swallowed up by the general term autism. To me, that is about the same as saying … Continue reading I’m Still On The Fence With This Autism Thing…
The idea for this post came from Anna over at Medium.com which is one of my favorite sites. The article was entitled: Stop using Asperger’s as an excuse to be a jerk When I read this article, the first person I thought of was Elon Musk. He had recently come out as an Aspie. But, he was not the first highly successful person to be … Continue reading Stop Being a Jerk!!
Part of my Aspie traits is that I take things much more personally than most. I have a lot of empathy, but it seems it takes a form that is different from most folks. I see someone’s personal hardships and immediately envision myself in that situation. In other words, I take on other’s problems as if they were my own. What does this have to … Continue reading Premonitions
Given that my world was turned upside down forty days ago, daily life is just not the same now. Since my wife’s recent heart attack and a slew of other serious problems that followed it, my daily routine has been obliterated. Given my Aspie traits, routines and schedules have been a critical part of how I live my life. It is proving hard to adapt … Continue reading Normal Is Relative
It’s nice to see some of the more famous and innovative people out there come out as being Aspies. Like me, most of us who are over 30 years old are self-diagnosed as the Asperger’s Syndrome establishment is almost totally concentrated on young children. Adults with Asperger’s just don’t appear on their radar. I didn’t know until I say the above article in The Week … Continue reading When You Have Seen One…
I recently watched a new episode of Last Tango In Halifax which is a British TV show about two retirees who were in love in their youth meeting again and getting married. I have to say I am watching much more British TV now than ever before. Endevour is probably my favorite. But, that’s another post… Anyway, on that show, one of the retirees mentioned … Continue reading LOM – I am A Word Collector
One of the biggest complaints I hear about the pandemic is the isolation that many people feel because they are off by themselves. When you live on the margins having more time alone is most often just a fact of life, especially for those of us who have significant Aspie traits or are deaf and for me, that is both. Over the years I have … Continue reading Being on the Margins Makes Isolation More Tolerable
I, like Greta Thunberg, consider many of my Aspie traits to be my “superpowers” but some of them do need to be controlled sometimes in order to get things done. I love the fact that I can sit down and totally concentrate on one particular thing and make the rest of the world simply disappear. I still do that for hours at a time, and … Continue reading Reigning In My Aspie Traits… Sometimes
I think it’s time for your last Aspie lesson for 2020. 🥸 I, like everyone else to one degree or another, get things seriously out of perspective. I let little things take up too much of my thinking life. My brain seems to constantly run in overdrive, a dozen things at a time. Many of those things don’t really deserve the space they take up, … Continue reading Keeping Things In Perspective
I think it is time for another Aspie lesson on RJsCorner. This one is a very basic question Are Aspies Narcissists? One Aspie characteristic that I have in spades is I take things much more personally than NTs. I should probably stop here and explain NT. Those with Aspergers are considered more “neurodiverse” than much of the general population. To signal that difference people without … Continue reading About Aspies & Narcissism?
The phrase in the title above comes from Friedrich Nietzsche who was a German researcher of philosophy in the mid 1800s. He was considered a child prodigy who unapologetically spoke his mind on a number of topics. I kinda live by that strategy myself. 🤓 He had many controversial quotes attached to his name, but I seriously cling to the one above as being fundamental … Continue reading Adversity Builds Character
I know I am on the 2020 Election battlefield for another 43 days but sometimes you just gotta take a break. That’s what I am doing with this post George Burns sang he wished he was 80 again, he lived to be 100 years and 2 months old. Well, I likely won’t even reach the age of 80, so I want to wish I was … Continue reading I Wish I Was 30 Again…
I have come to realize that a significant portion of my viewers come through the WordPress Reader and therefore have never seen my About pages. Knowing where I have come from is pretty important to understanding my daily posts. So, I am with this post sharing my About bio. About Me I am an Independent thinking highly functional person who is deaf and has some … Continue reading About Me…
I am a list maker and planner, that is who I am, and due to my Aspie traits I put logical thinking above most emotions. In that regard, I realize that I will very likely outlive my wife by possibly several years. She is seven years older than me and in precarious health. When we moved to our current homestead twenty years ago she made … Continue reading Considering My Options For Future Living
I have let it be known many times here on RJsCorner that I have significant Aspie traits. I have not been officially diagnosed, nor do I care to be, so I don’t call myself an Aspie. If you want to know more about this condition, at least from my personal perspective click here.
I had an Aspie type meltdown about three weeks ago that scared me. I have had a few more since then so I kinda get the reason for them. If you care to read about my first meltdown click here to see that post.Continue reading “All About Meltdowns…”
I make it no secret here at RJsCorner that I have significant Aspie traits. But, until recently I proclaimed that I don’t have Aspie meltdowns. I think I got that wrong. That is what this post is all about. Let’s start out with my personal event that made me wonder whether I have anxiety meltdowns. But, before I get into the actual story I guess … Continue reading Did I Have An Aspie Meltdown?
I think its time for another post about my Aspie traits. This one is about my obsession of having control of my life.Continue reading “Having Control…”
Being a published author is kind of like being a sports superstar. Everyone wants to be one but only a very very small portion of us actually make much money from either profession. That is what this post is about.Continue reading “A Dirty Little Secret…”
I just ran across this statistic from a medical professional website recently. Refuting that absurd claim is what this post is all about.Continue reading “85% of Aspies Are Unemployed… What A Crock!”
From my “Introduction to Journalism” class I took in college I learned that the headline is the primary reason most stop and read an article. I learned that lesson well it seems. 😏 I’m not saying that having Aspie traits is awful, in fact I think they have enriched my life in more ways than they have hurt. But I am saying that another condition combined with Aspie traits makes life almost impossible at times. That is what this post is all about.Continue reading “There Is Only One Thing Worse Than Being An Aspie…”
As usual for this time of year, I have been in a self-reflective mode here on RJsCorner. It seems that the primary focus this year is my Aspie traits. Why I think that is the case is the topic of this post.Continue reading “Where Everybody Knows Your Name”
For the next few Sundays I am going to be looking back at the 10+ years of RJsCorner to resurrect some of my favorite posts from the past. I mean those posts where I swell up when I read them again. The first of those favorites is what this post is all about.Continue reading ““Favorites” Sunday”
This post is a combination of my topics of Aspies, Philosophy, and Religion, but is centered around the topic of death. Those with Asperger’s just don’t see death as most do. And I kinda think that is a good thing. That is what this post is all about.Continue reading “Aspies & Grief”
Going forward, that’s how I am determined to stay up with this important political season. Just let the political ugliness run off my back and not even notice it. I know all the attacks from #CO3 (current Oval Office occupant) are not directed towards me but I tend to take everything personally that I read from that despicable person. Some say that those with Aspie … Continue reading I Gotta Learn How To Be A Duck
It’s time that I put out another post about Asperger’s Syndrome and why I say I have Aspie traits. It is often said that Aspies don’t have empathy. With this post, I want to try to convince you that is not true using some things I have learned and with some personal examples. That is what this post is about.Continue reading “Aspies & Empathy”
I am going to do something with this post that I don’t often do and that is to give you a major portions of an article from Psychology Today magazine about Greta Thunberg. She is one amazing young woman.Continue reading “Greta”
This post is about the journey of finding that person who makes you feel whole. The person who you want to spend your life with. What I say just might surprise you, especially coming from a seventy-three-year-old.Continue reading “Looking For Your Soul Mate”
Unconditional love is something I probably will never totally understand. I have problems even with the basic idea of love, let alone having it with no conditions attached, but even with that being the case, that is the main topic of today’s post. Let’s start with a more general discussion of trying to understand the perplexity of unconditional love, and then I will talk about it at a personal level.Continue reading “Having My Say About Unconditional Love”
Even after 32 years of marriage being alone is something I still relish. It seems I must have my alone time. That seems to be especially true now that I am in my senior years. But, I have always been pretty much a loner. I just never have seemed to know what to do in a group. I suspect a big part of this is … Continue reading Being Alone…