If you are a regular here at RJsCorner, you know that I have said that I had more meltdowns during the last week of my wife’s life than I thought I could endure. They came so frequently that I began … Continue reading One Last Look At My Aspie Meltdowns…
I have made it no secret here on RJsCorner that I struggled through life trying to figure out what was wrong with me. My very narcissistic mother who abandoned me when I was nine years old did nothing but amplify … Continue reading Finding Yourself In Your Differences
I thought I would give you this epilogue to expand the story on the final week of the trauma of my wife’s death. I know this story is mostly unique to me, and maybe I am penning it more for … Continue reading End Of Life Trauma #10 – Freeing & Strangling, At The Same Time
I have done a lot of reading about Asperger’s Syndrome and convinced that I have had many of those typical traits throughout my life, but only in the last decade found that they had a name. Now, the experts have … Continue reading I’m Still On The Fence With This Autism Thing…
The idea for this post came from Anna over at Medium.com which is one of my favorite sites. The article was entitled: Stop using Asperger’s as an excuse to be a jerk When I read this article, the first person … Continue reading Stop Being a Jerk!!
Part of my Aspie traits is that I take things much more personally than most. I have a lot of empathy, but it seems it takes a form that is different from most folks. I see someone’s personal hardships and … Continue reading Premonitions
Given that my world was turned upside down forty days ago, daily life is just not the same now. Since my wife’s recent heart attack and a slew of other serious problems that followed it, my daily routine has been … Continue reading Normal Is Relative
It’s nice to see some of the more famous and innovative people out there come out as being Aspies. Like me, most of us who are over 30 years old are self-diagnosed as the Asperger’s Syndrome establishment is almost totally … Continue reading When You Have Seen One…
I recently watched a new episode of Last Tango In Halifax which is a British TV show about two retirees who were in love in their youth meeting again and getting married. I have to say I am watching much … Continue reading LOM – I am A Word Collector
One of the biggest complaints I hear about the pandemic is the isolation that many people feel because they are off by themselves. When you live on the margins having more time alone is most often just a fact of … Continue reading Being on the Margins Makes Isolation More Tolerable
I, like Greta Thunberg, consider many of my Aspie traits to be my “superpowers” but some of them do need to be controlled sometimes in order to get things done. I love the fact that I can sit down and … Continue reading Reigning In My Aspie Traits… Sometimes
I think it’s time for your last Aspie lesson for 2020. 🥸 I, like everyone else to one degree or another, get things seriously out of perspective. I let little things take up too much of my thinking life. My … Continue reading Keeping Things In Perspective
I think it is time for another Aspie lesson on RJsCorner. This one is a very basic question Are Aspies Narcissists? One Aspie characteristic that I have in spades is I take things much more personally than NTs. I should … Continue reading About Aspies & Narcissism?
The phrase in the title above comes from Friedrich Nietzsche who was a German researcher of philosophy in the mid 1800s. He was considered a child prodigy who unapologetically spoke his mind on a number of topics. I kinda live … Continue reading Adversity Builds Character
I know I am on the 2020 Election battlefield for another 43 days but sometimes you just gotta take a break. That’s what I am doing with this post George Burns sang he wished he was 80 again, he lived … Continue reading I Wish I Was 30 Again…
I have come to realize that a significant portion of my viewers come through the WordPress Reader and therefore have never seen my About pages. Knowing where I have come from is pretty important to understanding my daily posts. So, … Continue reading About Me…
I am a list maker and planner, that is who I am, and due to my Aspie traits I put logical thinking above most emotions. In that regard, I realize that I will very likely outlive my wife by possibly … Continue reading Considering My Options For Future Living
I have let it be known many times here on RJsCorner that I have significant Aspie traits. I have not been officially diagnosed, nor do I care to be, so I don’t call myself an Aspie. If you want to know more about this condition, at least from my personal perspective click here.
I had an Aspie type meltdown about three weeks ago that scared me. I have had a few more since then so I kinda get the reason for them. If you care to read about my first meltdown click here to see that post.
Continue reading “All About Meltdowns…”
I make it no secret here at RJsCorner that I have significant Aspie traits. But, until recently I proclaimed that I don’t have Aspie meltdowns. I think I got that wrong. That is what this post is all about. Let’s … Continue reading Did I Have An Aspie Meltdown?
I think its time for another post about my Aspie traits. This one is about my obsession of having control of my life.
Continue reading “Having Control…”
Being a published author is kind of like being a sports superstar. Everyone wants to be one but only a very very small portion of us actually make much money from either profession. That is what this post is about.
Continue reading “A Dirty Little Secret…”
I just ran across this statistic from a medical professional website recently. Refuting that absurd claim is what this post is all about.
Continue reading “85% of Aspies Are Unemployed… What A Crock!”
From my “Introduction to Journalism” class I took in college I learned that the headline is the primary reason most stop and read an article. I learned that lesson well it seems. 😏 I’m not saying that having Aspie traits is awful, in fact I think they have enriched my life in more ways than they have hurt. But I am saying that another condition combined with Aspie traits makes life almost impossible at times. That is what this post is all about.
Continue reading “There Is Only One Thing Worse Than Being An Aspie…”
As usual for this time of year, I have been in a self-reflective mode here on RJsCorner. It seems that the primary focus this year is my Aspie traits. Why I think that is the case is the topic of this post.
Continue reading “Where Everybody Knows Your Name”For the next few Sundays I am going to be looking back at the 10+ years of RJsCorner to resurrect some of my favorite posts from the past. I mean those posts where I swell up when I read them again. The first of those favorites is what this post is all about.
Continue reading ““Favorites” Sunday”
This post is a combination of my topics of Aspies, Philosophy, and Religion, but is centered around the topic of death. Those with Asperger’s just don’t see death as most do. And I kinda think that is a good thing. That is what this post is all about.
Continue reading “Aspies & Grief”Going forward, that’s how I am determined to stay up with this important political season. Just let the political ugliness run off my back and not even notice it. I know all the attacks from #CO3 (current Oval Office occupant) are not directed towards me but I tend to take everything personally that I read from that despicable person. Some say that those with Aspie traits lack empathy, but I really believe it is quite the opposite. We tend to personalize everything, so what affects others tends to affect us too. I gotta get over that feeling if I am … Continue reading I Gotta Learn How To Be A Duck
It’s time that I put out another post about Asperger’s Syndrome and why I say I have Aspie traits. It is often said that Aspies don’t have empathy. With this post, I want to try to convince you that is not true using some things I have learned and with some personal examples. That is what this post is about.
Continue reading “Aspies & Empathy”
I am going to do something with this post that I don’t often do and that is to give you a major portions of an article from Psychology Today magazine about Greta Thunberg. She is one amazing young woman.
Continue reading “Greta”
This post is about the journey of finding that person who makes you feel whole. The person who you want to spend your life with. What I say just might surprise you, especially coming from a seventy-three-year-old.
Continue reading “Looking For Your Soul Mate”
Unconditional love is something I probably will never totally understand. I have problems even with the basic idea of love, let alone having it with no conditions attached, but even with that being the case, that is the main topic of today’s post. Let’s start with a more general discussion of trying to understand the perplexity of unconditional love, and then I will talk about it at a personal level.
Continue reading “Having My Say About Unconditional Love”Even after 32 years of marriage being alone is something I still relish. It seems I must have my alone time. That seems to be especially true now that I am in my senior years. But, I have always been pretty much a loner. I just never have seemed to know what to do in a group. I suspect a big part of this is probably due to my self-proclaimed Asperberger’s Syndrome. Interactions with others have always been difficult for me. It takes a special person to accept my nuances and call me a friend. I have had a few … Continue reading Being Alone…
Being a person with some strong Aspie traits, I just don’t handle stressful situations well. Fortunately, I don’t totally lose it as the word meltdown infers but I quit acting like an adult and instead am a panicked kid. In autism studies, these episodes are called meltdowns so I will call them that for the purposes of this post. One of my most prominent stressors is criticism. I am plainly oversensitive. I often perceive my wife’s criticism as calling me a complete idiot. When those situations occur I frequently go into at least some level of meltdown. I start shouting … Continue reading Autism and Meltdown
It has been a while since I put out a post about Autism concentrating primarily on Aspbergers’ Syndrome. This post will be about sensory sensitivity. Of course, that means being sensitive to sight, touch, taste, sound, and smell and is often a symptom of Autism. I continue to discover new traits in my life that point me to Aspbergers. This one came from a billboard that I saw several times a month while traveling back and forth from my small town to a larger one with more services and medical options. Let’s go through the list with my stories: Sight … Continue reading Autism & Sensory Sensitivity
Good judgment comes from experience and a lot of that comes from bad judgment – Will Rogers It’s time I put out a post on the new quote in the header above. I think experience and wisdom often go hand in hand and as Will says learning from mistakes is a big part of it. I personally think I can remember more details of the things I got wrong than the things I got right. Due to my Aspie characteristics, I made a lot of social mistakes. Looking back I can see where opportunities were presented to me that I … Continue reading Good Judgment
I have about 20,000 pictures in my personal portfolio. Probably one-third of them could be deleted and not really missed but that is beyond the purpose of this post. I have a list of about a hundred or so that are 5stars. One of the top ten in that category is shown below. I entitle it “Box of Eggs”. I think my attraction to this picture is because of its symmetry. My Aspie traits are particularly honed to order and symmetry. I found the picture in a Des Moines museum some years ago. So, for this artsy Saturday, I give you a “Box … Continue reading The Perfect Picture
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