The primary focus of RetComLife will about the struggles, joys, and everything in between I have experienced in finding and living in a retirement community for the last 5 years. Continue reading RetComLife : What’s It All About.
Being a person with some strong Aspie traits, I just don’t handle stressful situations well. Fortunately, I don’t totally lose it as the word meltdown infers, but I quit acting like an adult and instead am a panicked kid. In autism studies, these episodes are called meltdowns, so I will call them that for the purposes of this post. Continue reading Aspie Meltdowns
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson Even when I didn’t want to admit it, I recognized that I was different from everyone around … Continue reading Life On The Margins – To Be Yourself
Some of the frequent facial features of Autism are a broader upper face, shorter middle face, wider eyes, bigger mouth, and the philtrum. The use of facial features as a physical marker to detect Autism is one of the most exciting … Continue reading Embracing My Aspie Side…Or Not.
I have been a long time follower of “The Religious Society of Friends”, otherwise known as Quakers. They just seem to have it right in so many respects. But I have always been reluctant to even try to attend a meeting, Continue reading Quaker Meeting – A Place To Unmask
Those who supposedly know more than the rest of us, think that everything can be explained by the Bell shaped curve. Just to prove that, to the right, I give you a small sampling of its use. If the bell … Continue reading The Ubiquitous Bell Shaped Curve…
One thing that is critical to a satisfying life is to have dreams. Without dreams, we would certainly never hope to find our true place in this world. For most of us, the path to our destination in life is … Continue reading The Path To Your Destination…
I need to start posting on my new topic entitled “About Diversity”. I am currently reading several books on the topic that will take time to complete. Before that comes to fruition, I will post some here about my early … Continue reading Fear Of Diversity Is Primarily About The Unknown…
Until my official retirement from the corporate world happened twenty-four years ago, I always imagined that retirement was about just lying back and letting the days happen. But, for me, that is much easier said than done. That is what … Continue reading I Am Finally Giving Myself Nothing…
One of the most difficult things about living in retirement, especially for us elder orphans living in a retirement community, is “time drift“. I don’t know if I invented that phrase, but it certainly applies to me at this time in my life. I can count on one hand the number of people who have come into my apartment for a visit in the last three years. That, and the fact that I am mostly inept at things socially, means that I live my life almost totally on my own. Days just seem to drift into weeks, and weeks into … Continue reading RetComLife – Time Drift
These flowers remind me of something entirely different. What makes this bouquet so beautiful is the variety of individual plants that make it up. Yes, a dozen roses tell a story usually involving love, but a beautiful variety of flowers such as above shows us that diversity of life is where all the beauty resides.
Before I explain the title of this post, I must fill you in with a story (of course I do). I struggled most of my early to mid-adult life trying to figure out how to fit in, especially when it … Continue reading Peace At Last…
It looks like it is time for another Autism quote here on RJsCorner. One of my jobs in life is to help you understand the width and breadth of Autism. The more you know, the better you will understand and … Continue reading Over Stimulation…
All my life, I have been an avid reader. It started when I was in the 4th grade with the Hardy Boys Mysteries, and Jack London’s Call of the Wild, and White Fang. When I was twelve, I read my … Continue reading Now I Understand, What You Tried To Say To Me…
I have been thinking about Autism lately, particularly my acceptance of that label. Plainly speaking, I just don’t usually see myself as autistic. Many of my best traits are described by the term Aspie, or Aspergers syndrome. I am proud … Continue reading Autism, It’s Not A Black/White Issue
Welcome to the Boomer to AfterBoomers Club. Since this is the first official post for this new series, I want to tell you about what the B2AB project is all about and why you should come back often to this … Continue reading Welcome To The New “Boomer To AfterBoomer” (B2AB) Series
It seems that now that I understand I have Aspie traits, I tend to put all my trouble off to that condition. I have to quit doing that. Anxiety is one of those conditions that likely exists in almost everyone … Continue reading About Social Anxiety… Part 1
Ambitions Turned Inward (ATI) has turned out to be something much more significant that I thought it would at the beginning of this series. The first post was about wrapping my head around the idea of turning my ever present … Continue reading Ambitions Turned Inward – Part 4 – On Becoming Social
Something I pride myself in is being a disruptor. The status quo bores me! Usually, in today’s world, by the time something becomes the status quo it is no longer relevant and is in serious need of change. An important … Continue reading I Am A Disruptor, But…
Even though I am deaf, I am still folk music fanatic at least in my noisy brain that is. Far and away the most influential album of my life is the one above. I can’t tell you how many times … Continue reading I Am A Rock… And A Rock Feels No Pain
I have spent almost an entire lifetime trying to figure out why I am so different from many others. It wasn’t until a handful of years ago that I discovered Asperger’s Syndrome, and many of those questions were answered. Being … Continue reading What If Neurodiversity Was The “Normal”?
This post like many, came to me in my daily morning shower. Over the past many years I have come to realize that I am a “morning” person. Most of my creative juices come during the first five or six … Continue reading Until It’s Gone
Fitting in is a cultural expectation. From birth, we are told that this is the way you get along with others. It starts with your parents telling you how to behave, and, if you let it, it continues throughout your … Continue reading Fitting In…
If you are a regular here at RJsCorner, you know that I have said that I had more meltdowns during the last week of my wife’s life than I thought I could endure. They came so frequently that I began … Continue reading One Last Look At My Aspie Meltdowns…
I have made it no secret here on RJsCorner that I struggled through life trying to figure out what was wrong with me. My very narcissistic mother who abandoned me when I was nine years old did nothing but amplify … Continue reading Finding Yourself In Your Differences
I thought I would give you this epilogue to expand the story on the final week of the trauma of my wife’s death. I know this story is mostly unique to me, and maybe I am penning it more for … Continue reading End Of Life Trauma #10 – Freeing & Strangling, At The Same Time
I have done a lot of reading about Asperger’s Syndrome and convinced that I have had many of those typical traits throughout my life, but only in the last decade found that they had a name. Now, the experts have … Continue reading I’m Still On The Fence With This Autism Thing…
The idea for this post came from Anna over at Medium.com which is one of my favorite sites. The article was entitled: Stop using Asperger’s as an excuse to be a jerk When I read this article, the first person … Continue reading Stop Being a Jerk!!
Part of my Aspie traits is that I take things much more personally than most. I have a lot of empathy, but it seems it takes a form that is different from most folks. I see someone’s personal hardships and … Continue reading Premonitions
It’s nice to see some of the more famous and innovative people out there come out as being Aspies. Like me, most of us who are over 30 years old are self-diagnosed as the Asperger’s Syndrome establishment is almost totally … Continue reading When You Have Seen One…
I recently watched a new episode of Last Tango In Halifax which is a British TV show about two retirees who were in love in their youth meeting again and getting married. I have to say I am watching much … Continue reading LOM – I am A Word Collector
One of the biggest complaints I hear about the pandemic is the isolation that many people feel because they are off by themselves. When you live on the margins having more time alone is most often just a fact of … Continue reading Being on the Margins Makes Isolation More Tolerable
I, like Greta Thunberg, consider many of my Aspie traits to be my “superpowers” but some of them do need to be controlled sometimes in order to get things done. I love the fact that I can sit down and … Continue reading Reigning In My Aspie Traits… Sometimes
I think it’s time for your last Aspie lesson for 2020. 🥸 I, like everyone else to one degree or another, get things seriously out of perspective. I let little things take up too much of my thinking life. My … Continue reading Keeping Things In Perspective
I think it is time for another Aspie lesson on RJsCorner. This one is a very basic question Are Aspies Narcissists? One Aspie characteristic that I have in spades is I take things much more personally than NTs. I should … Continue reading About Aspies & Narcissism?
The phrase in the title above comes from Friedrich Nietzsche who was a German researcher of philosophy in the mid 1800s. He was considered a child prodigy who unapologetically spoke his mind on a number of topics. I kinda live … Continue reading Adversity Builds Character
I know I am on the 2020 Election battlefield for another 43 days but sometimes you just gotta take a break. That’s what I am doing with this post George Burns sang he wished he was 80 again, he lived … Continue reading I Wish I Was 30 Again…
I have come to realize that a significant portion of my viewers come through the WordPress Reader and therefore have never seen my About pages. Knowing where I have come from is pretty important to understanding my daily posts. So, … Continue reading About Me…
I am a list maker and planner, that is who I am, and due to my Aspie traits I put logical thinking above most emotions. In that regard, I realize that I will very likely outlive my wife by possibly … Continue reading Considering My Options For Future Living
I have let it be known many times here on RJsCorner that I have significant Aspie traits. I have not been officially diagnosed, nor do I care to be, so I don’t call myself an Aspie. If you want to know more about this condition, at least from my personal perspective click here.
I had an Aspie type meltdown about three weeks ago that scared me. I have had a few more since then so I kinda get the reason for them. If you care to read about my first meltdown click here to see that post.
Continue reading “All About Meltdowns…”
I make it no secret here at RJsCorner that I have significant Aspie traits. But, until recently I proclaimed that I don’t have Aspie meltdowns. I think I got that wrong. That is what this post is all about. Let’s … Continue reading Did I Have An Aspie Meltdown?
I think its time for another post about my Aspie traits. This one is about my obsession of having control of my life.
Continue reading “Having Control…”
Being a published author is kind of like being a sports superstar. Everyone wants to be one but only a very very small portion of us actually make much money from either profession. That is what this post is about.
Continue reading “A Dirty Little Secret…”
I just ran across this statistic from a medical professional website recently. Refuting that absurd claim is what this post is all about.
Continue reading “85% of Aspies Are Unemployed… What A Crock!”
From my “Introduction to Journalism” class I took in college I learned that the headline is the primary reason most stop and read an article. I learned that lesson well it seems. 😏 I’m not saying that having Aspie traits is awful, in fact I think they have enriched my life in more ways than they have hurt. But I am saying that another condition combined with Aspie traits makes life almost impossible at times. That is what this post is all about.
Continue reading “There Is Only One Thing Worse Than Being An Aspie…”
