At first glance, the title above just doesn’t make any sense. How can you be selfish and still focused on the well-being of others? In my opinion, with some explanations, the two interweave nicely together. To me, empathy means being your brother’s keeper, especially those worse off than you are. This attitude is what originally attracted me to Christianity. Helping others just seemed like what … Continue reading Selfish Empathy…
In the last year, I have spent a lot of time trying to discover the source of happiness, or maybe it is the source of unhappiness. Solve one and the other solves itself. I have even put out a ten-post series on the subject. Many of my other current focuses are indirectly related to this search. I know that China is not so much in … Continue reading The Real Secret To Happiness
How about a “Words of Wisdom” post today at RJsCorner. No two people have the same life story. Yeah, some people’s stories rhyme, but the details are often quite different. Since deaf Aspies are one in three million or so, I suspect my story is more unique than most. I tell my story here as a way of clearing my mind. Dozens of things pop … Continue reading Everybody’s Got A Story…
As mentioned in the previous post in this series, I have discovered the hard way that happiness can never happen when you become fixated on your unhappiness. I think this post will be the end of this series, as I am becoming happier each day now. So, what have I learned. Happiness is a state of mind, not a destination Until you lose your focus … Continue reading Happiness #9 – Conquering Unhappiness
Ok, with this post, I am going to give you a personal secret on how I have finally became a happier person. No, I don’t think I have achieved total happiness, but I am on my way to it. I bring back the quote I ended the last happiness post with. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive … Continue reading Happiness #8 – Doing What Makes You Come Alive…
If we could just find the reason for why we are not happy maybe we can finally find happiness. That is the core thought for this post. Most people, including me for much of my life, feel unhappy. Good things happen to us, but we just have no idea why happiness eludes us. From what my research has discovered, here are a few causes : … Continue reading Happiness #7 – Why Are We Unhappy?
These last few years have been a struggle for all of us. There was the lying idiot narcissist who occupied the Oval Office. That made those four years almost intolerable, and then came the virus which we were totally unprepared for. Then for me 2021 was consumed with the death and dying of my wife. The trauma of that nearly consumed me. Now that this … Continue reading We All Need Something To Laugh About
Some people seem to just be happier than others. I envy them in that regard. But there are things that we can all do to be happier people. There are some things that each of us are intrinsically drawn to that are focused on personal growth and community. That can help boost our happiness. Another is to just enjoy the moment, and at least temporarily … Continue reading Happiness #6 – Cultivating Happiness
One of my first “big boy” books was a biography of Einstein. I think I was about twelve years old when I read the first one. It was about 300 pages long, and I didn’t image I would ever finish it, but it only took me a couple of weeks to do just that. For some reason, the book just clicked with me. I have … Continue reading Happiness #5 – According to Einstein
I have been casually studying of Aristotle for many years, and have recently started another book about him. He was definitely a dreamer/thinker that I could never even imagine being. It is amazing to me how so many of his thoughts still apply today. Since he is one of my heroes, it just seemed natural that I look to him as to what he said … Continue reading The Pursuit of Happiness #4: According to Aristotle
Let’s continue on with the look at the article What is Happiness by Kendra Cherry as mentioned last Wednesday. She says that happiness is a very subjective thing that varies greatly from one person to another. Here is a list from the above article that show key signs of happiness Feeling like you are living the life you wanted Feeling that the conditions of your … Continue reading The Pursuit of Happiness #3 – How To Know If You’re Happy
I have spent the last couple of weeks studying the idea of happiness. I’ve looked at a couple of dozen different sources for a place to start. One article I came across that impressed me with its brevity, yet completeness on this topic was What is Happiness by Kendra Cherry. Click HERE if you want to see the entire article. This article from October 2020 … Continue reading The Pursuit of Happiness #2 – Where To Start…
Welcome to the new Wednesday series entitled The Pursuit of Happiness. This series, we will be studying what happiness has meant throughout the ages, and trying to discover within ourselves what it means to each of us. As usual, I don’t have a step-by-step agenda for this new series yet. It will depend on what we discover on our path to happiness. A primary reason … Continue reading The Pursuit of Happiness #1 – Changing My View
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