Ultra-Sensitive To Criticism, But…

For the life of me, I can’t understand how anyone can be hyper-sensitive to criticism but spewing it out by the bucket full every day? Most of us know the Golden Rule, but I guess to him it is “Get as much gold as you can, anyway necessary”.

I will give him the doubt by saying he probably didn’t get much basic education in morals and such as his father was too busy being a slum-lord in NYC at the time. Maybe “Doesn’t Fall Far From the Tree” is a good description. Here is a more about that

Myths Americans Need to Unlearn…

Umair Haque over at Medium.com certainly gives me much to think about lately. His recent blog post about the myths Americans need to unlearn will be the centerpiece in coming posts here are RJsCorner. I want to start out this series with the end of his post.


Source:  Eight Myths Americans Need to Unlearn About America

I certainly get my share of those screamers who call me names and tell me if I don’t love this country then I should GET OUT!!! Some think I am a bleeding heart liberal and others, believe it or not, think I am a Trumpster? They evidently feel so threatened by what I have to say to get them to attack me for one reason or another. I, like Umair, want to pronounce here that I am no threat to them. I am just an old guy who is primarily an observer of life with no power whatsoever to change what I am observing other than my single vote at the ballot box. Yeah, I have some loyal readers who might be swayed to a very small degree but that is about it.  You don’t need to feel that I am threatening to you. Now on to the topic at hand.

2018-10-28_11-02-50.png“We don’t need to listen to people who are critical of America! They’ll never help us!!” Some people consider progress and particularly the change almost always associated with it to be a bad thing. I do believe that the last couple of years are the most tumultuous of my life as far as social things are concerned.  We seem to have lost our ability to tolerate anyone with different views than ours.  The second most agonizing period that I have lived through was the 1960s but I was much younger then so I could tolerate it better than I do now. More than 50,000 of my generation lost their lives in a seemingly meaningless war.  There were riots in many major cities, soldiers killing kids on a college campus, African-Americans being attacked by police dogs and high power fire hoses. Some were dragged through the streets by white supremacists all because they were demanding their civil rights.  If ever there were a period where people were critical of America, it was during those years.

But look what came out of that same period and see many great accomplishments.  More on that in a near future post.

Aspie Traits – Assets vs Liabilities..

Banner Aspie  It has been a while since I talked about my Aspie traits. I have decided I won’t call myself an Aspie but will state that I have many of the characteristics of one.  Asperger’s Syndrome is part of the Autism Spectrum and the breadth of the syndrome is wide indeed.  Some, like myself live a pretty normal life while others struggle with day to day activities.

At least to me and I expect many others who are more knowledgeable of the Syndrome recognize that the traits are spread between assets and liabilities.  In this and future posts in this category I want to talk about both sides. So here goes:

Asset – We Are Forthright  Simply stated we speak our mind where others might hold back. That has always seemed a natural state to me, especially in the last decade or so.  I still can’t understand why people don’t speak forthrightly, but I do understand how it can cause you to get into trouble.  When I was a member of an LCMS Lutheran church I used to regularly attend Bible Study classes after the service.  When something didn’t make sense to me I spoke up. The more I did the more the pastor seem to get  upset. Especially when he couldn’t answer the question. It wasn’t long before I was told I couldn’t be a Lutheran anymore as I didn’t believe the “right” things.  Too much forthrightness got me in trouble. When we were asked to leave my wife blurted out “Why couldn’t you keep your mouth shut!!”  She still doesn’t understand that is just the way I am.

Liability – We have difficulty accepting criticism  This liability has given me trouble throughout my married life.  I can’t help it but it seems that my wife is constantly criticizing me for one thing or another.  Everything in the world seems to be my fault to one degree or another.  I sometimes get the feeling that she doesn’t think I can flush a toilet without screwing it up.  I guess other married guys can take this in stride but I have constant trouble in dealing with it.  Sometimes it results in some rather serious verbal spats.   I know I should not be so upset by criticism but that fact doesn’t help when I boil over because of it.