Explaining Our Times…

Ok, I admit that I have been retired from the workforce for almost two decades now, so aside from what I read I am pretty much ignorant of it. When I left the workforce the mantra was “Do more with less”. Many of my coworkers were being laid off and I was told that I had to do their jobs in addition to my own.  I couldn’t imagine a more stressful situation today.

When I came across this article by By Ruth Whippman in the New York Times it helped me to have more empathy for today’s middle-class workers.  Ms. Whippman is the author of “America the Anxious: Why Our Search for Happiness Is Driving Us Crazy and How to Find It for Real.” I think I will pick up an e-copy of her book to understand it more. Here are the snippets from the article I want to concentrate on:

In this cutthroat human marketplace, we are worth only as much as the sum of our metrics, so checking those metrics can become obsessive. What’s my Amazon ranking? How many likes? How many retweets? How many followers? (The word “followers” is in itself a clear indicator of something psychologically unhealthy going on — the standard term for the people we now spend the bulk of our time with sounds less like a functioning human relationship than the P.R. materials of the Branch Davidians.)…

This is the future, and research suggests that it’s a rat race that is already taking a severe toll on our psyches. A 2017 study suggests that this trend toward increasingly market-driven human interaction is making us paranoid, jittery, self-critical and judgmental.

Source: New York Times Nov 24, 2018

One of the two main points of this article is that more and more companies are outsourcing their work. They no longer employ their own workforce but instead contract it out. 

The second point is that our social media has become critical to our future success. We need to show that we are popular and influential in order to get that “perfect” job. If our “likes” aren’t high enough it will raise suspicion. Being told that finding that perfect job is now totally our responsibility. That alone is tons of pressure for so many young people.  It’s no wonder that the suicide rate among this young group is so high!

I’m going to stop here with this particular post. But I suspect that I will be revisiting this topic in more detail after I have read the author’s book.

I Don’t Have Many Friends — By Choice..

Maybe I should explain the title some more before I continue with the post.  Yes, because of my Aspie traits and my isolation as a deaf senior citizen I don’t have as many friends as I had when I was in the corporate world. That is a fact that can’t be denied but it is not the point of this post.

The point I am trying to make is that by Facebook standards my friends list is pretty abysmal.  I think at last count I had about 40 “friends”. Some of them I don’t “follow” because they post multiple times daily about the most mundane things in their life and even though I am a 24/7 senior I don’t have, or maybe I won’t take the time to even browse through those posts.  Of those 40 friends I think their average friend count is over 200.

2017-10-12_12-05-50.pngIt is not because I am not able to have more “friends”, Lord knows I get multiple requests weekly from people I have no idea who they are. Maybe they read a post here at RJsCorner and want me to know what they are doing?  But I suspect most of them found me when I made a comment on Facebook one place or another.  Their purpose for asking me is simply to increase their count so as to impress their friends.

I’m probably going to come off as an old fogie here but I think social media is a fad not worth following, at least to the degree that many do. We all say our days are so hectic that we have no time for family things. But then the stats show that people spend multiple hours daily interacting with social media.  Maybe it’s time for many to go cold turkey from social media for a few days to spend time on other things? Maybe its absence would show them that it doesn’t add much value to their lives?

Follow Me On Facebook or Feedly

Snippet Banner  2017-02-28_10-27-01A quick snippet here to give you a couple of different ways to follow my daily posts on RJsCorner. If you are a regular Facebook viewer you can now see my post there. Just click on the”Facebook Connect” block on the right edge of this post and hit the “Follow” button on the Facebook page.

If you use Feedly, another way to make it easier to read me is to put me on your Feedly list. It is a great app that I use daily.  Just copy the URL here and then go to Feedly search box and paste it there and then click “Search” and then “Follow” on the subsequent page.

About Being American

I just love this Facebook entry on my friend’s page. It says it all on what being an American should be about. You can do your thing but don’t try to prevent me from doing mine.

Diversity……

 

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Facebook in 2030? 5 billion users, says Zuck

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All CEOs including Facebooks’ Mark Zukerberg are paid the big bucks to be dreamers. They all have to have a vision of where their company dominates all the competition in the years ahead. Of course there are only a meager few who actually get it right. The rest take their millions and walk away and another dreamer takes over.  I think Zuck really understands that by 2030 which is fourteen years away something else will likely replace Facebook as THE social site of the age. Fourteen years is an eternity when it come to technological change.

But I want to get a little more personal with this post and tell you what I don’t like about Facebook.  I have been getting on site daily for some time now but it is getting on my nerves. I know that Facebook like any other corporation HAS to grow. If they don’t they lose favor with Wall Street. How they do that is what is important.

I admit that I like to keep up with some of my friends via Facebook. Even if I don’t see them face-to-face much anymore it is nice to see what they are up to in their daily lives. The Walters clan, if it even deserves to be called that, have never been to connected with each other. I have two brothers and a deceased sister as siblings. The last time I saw them in person was in 2002 when I made a trip south to visit them. They for the most part never seemed interested in connecting on any serious level so they have never reciprocated with a visit north. But still it is nice to see some of their daily interactions with their immediate families.

As I said I enjoy keeping up, even on a trivial level, with my friends and relatives but lately it seems that I must also keep up with any comments or interactions with people they “like”. For some of my friends that means dozens more daily reads. I like my friends but I don’t necessarily care to know who all their friends are.  Simply stated it is just taking too much time to parse through what I don’t care to see in order to keep up with them.  I will shamefully admit that I have “unfollowed” several in order to keep my Facebook viewing to a manageable level.

I know that kids spend hours each day on what I consider frivolous social media interactions but I just don’t see the point in knowing why my BFF had for breakfast this morning and don’t really care what their friends had!

Zuck may eventually have to subtract one from his  7 billion human count estimate.