Why are so many women low esteem masochists?

Be forewarned that I am putting on my satirical hat for this post so don’t take it too serious even if it does ring of truth.

The title of this post may shock some of my readers but that is what my Aspie side sometimes thinks when I sees some women. It just looks to me that too many 21st century women will go through whatever present and future pain is necessary to make themselves into what others expect.

2017-10-23_20-07-28.pngI know I have this maybe abnormal fixation on this topic but for the life of me I can’t understand why women continue to wear high heels, especially the seven inch variety that are now popular. I see so many women on TV that struggle to walk on their tip toes because the fashion authorities, whoever they are, tell them this is the latest style and of course they want to be stylish.

IMG_0394.jpgChanging subjects slightly I will let you in on a dirty dark secret. I am a mall walker. I spend most Thursday afternoons in a local mall briskly walking me two miles each week. One of the unofficial surveys I take during these walks is to count the number of women who are wearing heels higher than one inch.  I won’t keep you in suspense so I will tell you it is seldom more than three or so out of perhaps 200+ women I encounter. I like to say that the only people I see wearing high heels at the mall are the ones with half a brain as shown this picture I snapped there recently.

If high heels are so loved then why don’t women wear them all the time? I think this and other similar trends have something to do with peer pressure. Peer pressure is a powerful thing or at least I am told. I’m not sure if I personally ever felt a powerful need to do something simply because others were doing it but that is another post story I guess.

Closing out this post, I want to say I certainly support the idea that women are underrepresented when it come to middle and higher income level jobs. But I think part of the reason for that underrepresentation is they rightly or wrongly are seen as sheep instead of leaders. Or maybe it is because they are perceived as afraid to stand on their own and take off their high heels and all the paint they wear and show the world just who they really are. Now before you start piling on, I know there are men in these same straights. Maybe it is not high heel and makeup but something else for them.

The belief that a woman’s intelligence is inversely proportional to the height of her heels and the depth of her makeup maybe has something to do with them not always being taken seriously in the world.


  1. I agree with you and of course not all women are like this and get more self secure, I believe, as they age. But when I see an older woman trying to dress and look young with tattoos, weird colored hair and unflattering dress, it is pathetic! And those movie stars and all their plastic surgery! Most look like some kind of hideous monster. And there are some men who fall into that as well. We are a youth and sex oriented society and this is probably the bottom line of all this…


  2. I really don’t know what goes on in the mind of other women. I wonder though. Men may think that women are dressing to please them but I don’t believe that is true. It may be advertising or movie stars or even the mannequins in the store window that need to be held responsible. But in the end it seems to me that it is all about the esthetic of the woman. She sees something in her mind that appears beautiful. It looks good to her and makes her feel good. It may not be what I would choose but that is not the point. Her self image is of her own making. She will walk out the door feeling like a queen. It is those of us that judge her that destroy her self image. Why do we do that? Who are we to judge?

    As for the spiky heals…well they do look very good and make our legs longer and more shapely. Some women absolutely love a beautiful pair of shoe and beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I think some shoes are so beautiful they should be displayed as art and not worn.

    However, when all is said and done, if a woman is seeking approval or trying to hold on in the job market, dress can become a burden and they are the beast bearing it. That is very sad.

    It is just a thought.


  3. Thanks for the thoughts Barb. I imagine you are right about several of the things you brought up. But since a woman’s mind is so unfathomable to me I really don’t know. The point I was trying to make in the post is that women will never be thought of as equals to men, especially in the job market, as long as they go through such efforts. Yeah, women are generally shorter than men, but what does that have to do with anything? I guess the perfume is pretty much gone from the worksite now, thank heavens for that. I struggled to stay in the same room with some women when I was in the corporate world.


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