There Is Only One Thing Worse Than Being An Aspie…

From my “Introduction to Journalism” class I took in college I learned that the headline is the primary reason most stop and read an article. I learned that lesson well it seems. 😏 I’m not saying that having Aspie traits is awful, in fact I think they have enriched my life in more ways than they have hurt. But I am saying that another condition combined with Aspie traits makes life almost impossible at times. That is what this post is all about.

Let me finish the title above:

There is only one thing worse than being an Aspie and that is being a deaf Aspie.

I have been having one of my regular pity-parties lately and talking it out seems to help. So, that might be one of the core reasons for this post. Here goes…

Over the years I have written extensively about these two conditions at RJsCorner. Separately they are both challenges that can be overcome with some degree of perseverance. Together they too often form a tsunami in my life. Because of my Aspie traits human interaction is cumbersome to say the least. Combine that with deafness increases the difficulty ten times over.

A third factor is given that my wife is a serious recluse, we don’t get out much anymore. She neither has the will or endurance for social things now. So, I am for the most part on my own! It just seems like I got my “three strikes” but I ignorantly don’t know that’s supposed to take me out of play.

Some say I am brave to overcome these obstacles as much as I have, but to me, it is just a matter of survival. Nothing brave about it. We all have our life challenges, some more than others but there are only two things you can do about it. One is to crawl under your blankets of self-pity and admit defeat and the other is to cope the best way you can.

Being an isolated deaf Aspie is a giant challenge for me. But, I have faced it in the past, and I will do it again this time around.

2 comments

  1. You are so articulate. Have you thought about moving to a city where you can participate in more services- both in giving and receiving? You know there have to be others in your situation. We are long married and are considering two different spaces to fill our needs of isolation vs family.
    My personality as a β€œfixer” comes up with ideas. That is never supposed to invalidate your feelings of isolation. May some strong positive thoughts come your way soon.

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    • Thanks for the kind words Janette. Unfortunately moving to a city is not an option and I’m not sure it would really be of much benefit. Yeah, I’m a fixer too, so I know where you are coming from. I always get blue this time of year but I always, also, get over it when the tulips start sprouting up. Looking forward to that especially this year.

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