The World of Pretend…

2016-03-26_12-51-39.pngA good portion of my life was spent around someone who lived in a world of pretend. My mother was that person. She abandoned me, my brother, and her husband when I was about ten years old to marry someone much richer who could provide her with the luxuries she so wanted in life.  I would not have any sort of relationship with her again until twenty years later when that husband divorced her to marry his much younger secretary.

It was not until this re-introduction that I realized that she primarily lived in a world of pretend.  Reality had little to do with her mentality. She lived in a dream world of her own making. Since she left school at the age of fifteen to bare her first child it is unlikely that she ever graduated from high school. But to her that was not her reality. Throughout her life she made up stories about how she was a doctor, a head nurse at a prominent hospital, and a myriad of other occupations and circumstances.

She was pretty much a bigot and did not have much room for empathy in her life. But to show that she wasn’t she would occasionally “adopt” a person of lower standing than she perceived herself to be.  But then she would drop them as quickly as she adopted them. In reality she very seldom looked beyond herself for any reason.  I would later learn that she was the epitome of a narcissist. She lived in her own world of pretend throughout her life. Tragically, in the end she became an extremely spiteful person who looked down on everyone and everything around her. I was the only one of her four children that had any kind of a relationship with her and even that was very limited in the final year.  I think she finally discovered that the world of pretend was a cage, not a cocoon and that was devastating to her ego.

In a way I am thankful that she was in my life, it gave me a perspective of what I didn’t want to be. To counter her narcissism I went the other direction and became an empath. I purposely try to always tell things as I believe them to be. I probably do this to a fault. I just don’t want to ever want to live in a pretend world.

The world of pretend is in itself not a bad place, but when it invades and even takes over the real world it becomes a strangling cage.

 

The Most Important People in Cable News…

2016-03-26_11-33-18It seems I have been hearing a lot of background talk about the cable news anchors. Many seem to be troubled by all the young females who are now figureheads in that media. I don’t have a poll to prove it but I hear most of these comments coming from women.  They just seem to be the most disgusted. Maybe its because too many guys just like watching the eye-candy instead of trying to listen to a knowledgeable source.

I personally have never been that very impressed with any of the talking heads of news, even the network variety. The main skill for that job position has always seemed to be to look good and to be able to read a teleprompter.  But, even I have noticed the drastically lowered bar in this area.  The graphic to the right show I am not the only one, especially but not exclusively for Fox News.

I am old enough to remember when most news organizations both print and video attempted to remain unbiased in their reporting. It was a shock to hear ABC’s David Brinkley say to what he thought was an off mic how little he thought of President Clinton.  It sent shock waves throughout the industry.  But then Fox News, owned by a very conservative Rupert Murdock came upon the scene and changed everything.  They aggressively fought to become the news rather than just report it. Since their ratings went up because of their bias others quickly followed. Now it is rare indeed to NOT hear a Brinkley type comment come from every “reporters” lips.

Things have changed drastically of the last couple of decades in how and what we receive as news.  The cable news networks now seem to be more of a beauty contest than anything else.  Every anchor and most reporters are young and mostly attractive women who have probably had little or no experience in investigative journalism or any journalism for that matter.

Maybe all of this is what has been driving so many to the Web for their daily news. I admit that I spend probably an hour a day perusing my pre-chosen websites to see what is happening. I just can’t stomach the video version much any more. That is except for the PBS Newshours.  I just prefer my news without all the eye-candy.

Now to get to the opening question of this post, who is the most important person in cable news today?  The answer seems to be the makeup artists for the talking heads and all those young blond reporters.

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About Me…

Every once in a while I like to make public a little more about me. It helps me more fully understand who I am and what I am doing, and have done, with my life and maybe gives you some understanding of some of my views.   This post is about that general topic and revolves around the word “rote”. I know that is not a word I or anyone else uses much but it totally defines a significant  part of my life.

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Even though I am in my seventh decade of life in some ways I  still seem to be a little kid who just never grew up. I have always needed constant stimulation to keep from getting bored with my circumstances.   If things stay the same for too long they become rote.

2016-03-25_11-08-32.pngEven though I worked for the same company for thirty years I didn’t do the same thing for more than five years or so and then it was time for a basic change. Once I got good at something it then bored me and I was ready for change. I couldn’t, and really still can’t, understand how a person can do the same thing year after year.

2016-03-25_11-09-01.pngWhen I left the corporate world and started up a furniture/cabinet business. I had been doing woodworking projects for myself for years but rarely sold any of my creations. During the six year that this business was active I became very good at creating and fabricating furniture.  While the one-man shop was somewhat successful it just became boring to me. Once I had conquered the skills to do the work it was not of much interest to me anymore. In retrospect I can look back at my life and discover that this was by no means the only occurrence.

2016-03-25_11-09-24.pngI think I was about 12 or 13 when I read my first biography on Albert Einstein. It was a big  book, about three inches thick) for such a small person that I was. I was fascinated by his life and I think I then became addicted to learning and my “question everything” approach to life. Being a farm boy with a relatively low self-esteem I never even dreamed of being like him an any regard but some of those words evidently rubbed off on me. I love his quote in the graphic to the right.

It seems that my challenge in life has always been  to learn something new. Once that is accomplished it is time to move on to other things.  Learning seems to be my passion in life. I’m sure that I am not alone with these thoughts….

When Robots Make Cars….

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I know that robots have taken over many of the repetitive tasks from us humans. Many see that as stripping jobs away from those who don’t care to otherwise be ready for today’s workforce.  The mind-numbing jobs are being taken over my mindless robots and that is as it should be. Let’s take auto manufacturing as an example:

  • Robots don’t make mistakes... They do the same thing over and over again because that is all they are programmed to do.
  • Robots don’t know Monday from Friday…. They don’t take their eye off the task at hand because they are still remembering the weekend or are anticipating the coming one.
  • Robots can do the same thing over and over with the same accuracy…. Not only do they not make mistakes but they do what they are programmed to do with extreme accuracy. They simply don’t have other distractions on their minds.

Let’s face it, compared to today’s cars, the cars of the 1970s, 80s, and 90s were junk. The fit and finish were terrible and the lemons made because of absent minded defects were very troublesome to those who were unfortunate enough to get them. Humans just never did a good job of making cars.

So where does that leave us humans? For those unprepared for anything else but mindless  assembly line work it leaves them with flipping hamburgers or other low skilled work  that were once meant as entry type jobs. But for those willing to put in the effort to equip themselves with the necessary skills it leaves them with opportunity. Many young people today are taking that opportunity but many are not. Some think they are not smart enough to learn, some just can’t afford it. The later needs our help but then again so does the former.

We need to make higher education more affordable, if not free, for anyone who wants to improve themselves.  Free high school education has been the norm now for many decades and now its time to kick that up a notch to at least two years of free trade school or college.

For those who don’t think they are smart enough we need to do a better job of encouraging them. We need to make learning as important to them as high school sports are now.  Part of that is a teacher thing but the biggest share belongs to the parents.