It seems that now that I understand I have Aspie traits, I tend to put all my trouble off to that condition. I have to quit doing that. Anxiety is one of those conditions that likely exists in almost everyone in one form or another. The other thing I am coming to recognize is that many of the Aspie articles seem to think that if … Continue reading About Social Anxiety… Part 1
Ambitions Turned Inward (ATI) has turned out to be something much more significant that I thought it would at the beginning of this series. The first post was about wrapping my head around the idea of turning my ever present ambitions inward was all about. The second in the series was about discovering what I might want to do with the rest of my life. … Continue reading Ambitions Turned Inward – Part 4 – On Becoming Social
Something I pride myself in is being a disruptor. The status quo bores me! Usually, in today’s world, by the time something becomes the status quo it is no longer relevant and is in serious need of change. An important part of life is to realize that change is constant. There’s nothing you can do to prevent that. Sure, you can stick your head in … Continue reading I Am A Disruptor, But…
Even though I am deaf, I am still folk music fanatic at least in my noisy brain that is. Far and away the most influential album of my life is the one above. I can’t tell you how many times I played that record before I want deaf. I still have a copy of the lyrics on the wall behind me. I bought the album … Continue reading I Am A Rock… And A Rock Feels No Pain
I have spent almost an entire lifetime trying to figure out why I am so different from many others. It wasn’t until a handful of years ago that I discovered Asperger’s Syndrome, and many of those questions were answered. Being an Aspie is not about being defective, it is just about looking at life with a different perspective. People with neurological differences are called neurodiverse, … Continue reading What If Neurodiversity Was The “Normal”?
This post like many, came to me in my daily morning shower. Over the past many years I have come to realize that I am a “morning” person. Most of my creative juices come during the first five or six hours after awakening each day. Before I got out of my shower, I had already formulated the storyline for this post. I usually try to … Continue reading Until It’s Gone
Fitting in is a cultural expectation. From birth, we are told that this is the way you get along with others. It starts with your parents telling you how to behave, and, if you let it, it continues throughout your life. We are told you must wear a mask and hide who you really are so that you fit in. I have been doing a … Continue reading Fitting In…
If you are a regular here at RJsCorner, you know that I have said that I had more meltdowns during the last week of my wife’s life than I thought I could endure. They came so frequently that I began feeling that if they don’t stop, I don’t want to live any longer. In this post, I will try to give you an idea of … Continue reading One Last Look At My Aspie Meltdowns…
I have made it no secret here on RJsCorner that I struggled through life trying to figure out what was wrong with me. My very narcissistic mother who abandoned me when I was nine years old did nothing but amplify those negative feelings I had about myself. In hindsight, I am kind of glad she left, as I don’t know how much damage she would … Continue reading Finding Yourself In Your Differences
I thought I would give you this epilogue to expand the story on the final week of the trauma of my wife’s death. I know this story is mostly unique to me, and maybe I am penning it more for my benefit than yours, but I can see something similar possibly happening to you. So, maybe my “lessons learned” can be helpful for you. When … Continue reading End Of Life Trauma #10 – Freeing & Strangling, At The Same Time
I have done a lot of reading about Asperger’s Syndrome and convinced that I have had many of those typical traits throughout my life, but only in the last decade found that they had a name. Now, the experts have decided that Asperger’s doesn’t exist anymore, it has been swallowed up by the general term autism. To me, that is about the same as saying … Continue reading I’m Still On The Fence With This Autism Thing…
The idea for this post came from Anna over at Medium.com which is one of my favorite sites. The article was entitled: Stop using Asperger’s as an excuse to be a jerk When I read this article, the first person I thought of was Elon Musk. He had recently come out as an Aspie. But, he was not the first highly successful person to be … Continue reading Stop Being a Jerk!!
Part of my Aspie traits is that I take things much more personally than most. I have a lot of empathy, but it seems it takes a form that is different from most folks. I see someone’s personal hardships and immediately envision myself in that situation. In other words, I take on other’s problems as if they were my own. What does this have to … Continue reading Premonitions
It’s nice to see some of the more famous and innovative people out there come out as being Aspies. Like me, most of us who are over 30 years old are self-diagnosed as the Asperger’s Syndrome establishment is almost totally concentrated on young children. Adults with Asperger’s just don’t appear on their radar. I didn’t know until I say the above article in The Week … Continue reading When You Have Seen One…
I recently watched a new episode of Last Tango In Halifax which is a British TV show about two retirees who were in love in their youth meeting again and getting married. I have to say I am watching much more British TV now than ever before. Endevour is probably my favorite. But, that’s another post… Anyway, on that show, one of the retirees mentioned … Continue reading LOM – I am A Word Collector
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