I Am Just Not a “Niche” Guy…

TL Banner  For my weekly bio post I thought I would talk a little about my blogging processes in particular but more generally about my thought processes which due to Aspergers is probably different than yours. Many of the more successful blogs around the Internet are niche blogs, that is they concentrate on one particular topic. Many that I read are of the retirement genre. Their readers pretty much know what they are going to get when they go to their sites. As they say like-minded people like to congregate together, especially during these trying times so they don’t want any surprises and especially disagreements.

2016-12-09_20-20-37.pngWhen I started RJsCorner in 2008 my intention was to  join them and concentrate on how I was coping with my retirement that was then eight years in. But things pretty quickly moved beyond that topic. Simply stated I just couldn’t seem to stay on topic as watched the world spinning outside my door. I admit that I often get something in my brain and it stews there for several days before coming to the surface.  My “question everything” attitude simply did not allow me to stick to one topic.  Everything means everything after all. So, of course RJsCorner rather quickly evolved into a broader venue.

I have found that it is pretty hard to get a large dedicated audience when you jump all over the map of life’s issues as I do.  You are bound to cause hurt feeling when you say things that some of your readers may fundamentally disagree with. Unintentionally hurting other people’s feelings is actually one of the characteristics of Aspergers. Maybe that is why I kind of MUST speak my mind in an unfiltered way to maintain my sanity.

As my “About Page” says I blog about the many things that I am passionate about; things that make me want to leap out of bed each morning to get involved. Empathy is a strong part of my life so talking about how others are treated is one of my major topics here.  Traveling and photography have become a centerpiece of my retirement years so I proudly show off those topics as well.  That is true especially now that I have finally got my self made micro-RV on the road.

I am a high level thinker on many topics it seems and I hope I talk about at least some issues that you find interesting . Logic is something that is a part of my prime directive so I often post about when things just don’t seem logical and in the political sphere lately many things don’t seem logical.. 🙂

Many of those who read me are bloggers who have many more viewers on their blogs than I do. That makes me a little jealous, but their regular visits here tells me I must be doing something right. I am a blogger’s blog.  In the end I blog primarily for myself or so I tell myself that. But your complimentary comments on occasion do stroke my ego.  Thanks for that. We all need our egos stroked once in a while…

Old Guys Just Aren’t Very Popular on the Web…

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Being the beginning of a new year I am going to try and get some things off my chest so maybe I won’t fret about them all year. This is one of those posts. Take it with an ounce of truth and a pound of jest. 🙂

Maybe I should erase my “About Me” page here as it probably quickly pushes some people away from my blog site.  If I made up a story about being  a troubled teenager or maybe a struggling artist I would probably get more readers and especially more “likes”.

I run across so many blogs that are so shallow in content but have a zillion “likes” that it almost makes me vomit sometimes. How can someone who talks about what they had for breakfast have more readership than me? Part of it I guess is that these bloggers have 1,000 “friends”and each feel compelled to make their presence known. That seems to be the most sought after thing to many kids today. The more “friends” the more important you are or so they think. They spend hours a day focused on putting themselves out in front of everyone else in order to gain another friend or two.

I know being an old man I am probably somewhat typical in having less than 100 “friends” on Facebook. I just take the “friend” word more seriously than they do. I also  write things here that take a little thought to absorb. Maybe too much thought for many who browse the Internet constantly and can’t spend more than 10 seconds on a post.

I try to keep all my posts limited to 500 words or so because I personally can’t stand the blah, blah, blah of others. If it can’t be read in a couple of minutes I usually do no more than skim it. I suspect that others do the same to me. Maybe I am not that much different from the kids in that regard?

One of my lofty goals with this blog is to try and educate younger generations  with stories about my life. I kind of show them, via my life stories, how not to do things. I  also want to encourage them to find their passions in life and especially to live outside of themselves. But I suspect many really aren’t interested in that sort of stuff yet. I probably wasn’t at their age.

Closing this post with the original thought it seems the only time old guys are popular on the web is when they are talking to other old guys about retirement and other “old people” things like aches and pains, and living on Social Security. No one wants to take the time to listen to us old people who were born before computers and cell phones. After all what could we have of value to teach them??

Even though I don’t get many “likes” I will continue to chug along here at RJ’sCorner with my daily posts. Like several of my heroes  including Teddy Roosevelt, I just have to write even if no one reads the words.  It’s just what I do… but I hope there are at least a few out there reading it.

Looking Back…

2015-12-11_13-28-53.pngHere it is the end of another year and time to look back to how I spent it.  So here goes:

Blog wise I made a decision about mid year to start things over again. It might not have been too obvious to some of my readers here but I abandoned my old blog of five years and moved it here in order to start fresh. I also wanted to incorporate the five blogs I was then running into one and to do some basic changes.  With that decision I left 300+ hard won followers on the old site. Some followed but many didn’t and in some ways that was a good thing. I now offer a much more varied content of posts that I enjoy creating more and I hope you guys enjoy them too.  I believe this new place more accurately reflects who I am and how I feel about things.

2015-08-07_13-42-40In looking back at my 2015 “To Accomplish” list from the start of the year I found that I actually did about 80% of the items on that list. Many were aligned with doing a more freestyle type of living. Less structure has meant more freedom to go with the flow and after some initial pain I am a happier person now.  I have always been a list maker so giving that up was not easy. I also vowed to do more “out of the box” thinking and be more creative.  I think I accomplished both at least on some level.

2015-12-11_13-37-15.pngI vowed to somehow suffer less depression than I have in previous years and I am glad to proclaim that has happened.  I just don’t fret as much about  things in life that I can’t really control anymore. I don’t let things get me down as much now.  That doesn’t mean that I quit think, talking, and especially writing about them here on RJsCorner but now I put that into a new perspective.

uRV-crop.pngI have spent about three years taking my old pickup truck with its over sized cap on the back and turning it into my personal micro-RV (uRV).  When I announced to my wife that I would be taking frequent overnight trips in it to do my own thing she was not thrilled about it. She even made the comment “I guess our marriage is over then!” But after some reflection she grudgingly accepted that I needed some time to myself to pursue things that she is simply not interested in. I took a few trips this year and will do that even more frequently in 2016. I think our marriage is actually healthier as a result.

2015-12-11_13-45-09.pngOne of the big accomplishments for 2015 is that I managed to get my wife on board with taking a vacation to Disney World. Up till now she has been adamantly opposed to the idea. For some reason she just doesn’t like Florida and thought that Disney World was for kids and not “old” people. I think she now acknowledges that she married a kid who is still a kid even in his seventh decade of life.  So next Spring I will be doing some extended reports here about my experience with the make-believe world of Disney.

It has been a good year, a healthy year and even though I will not be making out a New Years list this year I look for 2016  being even better.

I wish you all a happy, satisfying, and hopeful 2016…



Rising Again…

2015-07-23_20-48-10This blog has been in a three month hiatus due to me just getting tired of the political dialog. I have made some basic changes to prevent that from happening again.  One thing is that while I will continue to allow comments, at least for now, I will not reply to many of them.  I know this is not good blog etiquette but that is the way it has to be for me to continue here and keep my sanity. This is my longest running blog and has over 2,000 posts so it has become an important part of who I am.  While I will be drastically trimming down on posts about politics I will continue to occasionally post in that venue. There are many other topics included here that I didn’t want to abandon… so here we go again…