I Worry About Old Men Being In Charge

I just passed my 76th year on this earth and my age is showing more and more as each day passes. I know my cognition is becoming more difficult for me. Where I used to write a post here on RJsCorner in10-15 minutes it now sometimes takes an hour. I am physically stumbling more now. I have to accept it that these types of things … Continue reading I Worry About Old Men Being In Charge

Sharing Our Life Stories

I have been trying to get some of the folks here in my RetCom (retirement community) to think about putting their life experiences on-line so that others might learn from them, or at least be entertained by them. Some of the stories I have heard are simply amazing. I realize that not everyone has the talents to accomplish such a task of telling their life … Continue reading Sharing Our Life Stories

RetComLife – Info About Waitstaffs

I came across some statistics lately about the dining industry that I believe explain some about the problems of my RetCom’s (retirement community) dining problems of not being able to build a reliable waitstaff. There were many of them in my source but for this post I will concentrate on just three. If you want to see the whole article click HERE. My RetCom has … Continue reading RetComLife – Info About Waitstaffs

I Just Couldn’t Help Myself

It’s time for another Aspie post here on RJsCorner. This one is about Aspie obsessions. I’m sure I have posted about this before, but I don’t specifically remember it. So, I will give you a brief story about Aspies and obsession. Here is a quote from a reliable source about Aspies and special interests. I recognized this trait in myself from an early age. I … Continue reading I Just Couldn’t Help Myself

Myth #37 – Old People Don’t Do On-Line

I’m sure you, to one degree or another, likely agree with the title of this post. Old people are simply not tech-savvy to any degree. When I suggested to the management here at my RetCom (retirement community) home that we should have an on-line interface for communications with the residents, I was given that line. With nothing to back my suggestion up I let it … Continue reading Myth #37 – Old People Don’t Do On-Line

RetComLife – The Thing About Men: Part 3 – Finally, The Project

This is a continuation of yesterday’s post about trying to start up a new activity here in my RetCom (retirement community) that is focused toward us guys. Yesterday I talked about two possibilities: woodworking and model building. Today’s post is about a third path forward and that is Lego. I know many of you are probably saying that Lego is for kids, but since old … Continue reading RetComLife – The Thing About Men: Part 3 – Finally, The Project

RetComLife – The Thing About Men: Part 2 -Let’s Build Stuff”

I have been in my RetCom home for 14 months now, and am slowly making some friends here. Being deaf and having Aspie traits has made that process difficult as it has for most everything in my last 35 years. Finding my place here has been a struggle. I tried to start up an activity pointed towards hearing loss issues, but that just didn’t pan … Continue reading RetComLife – The Thing About Men: Part 2 -Let’s Build Stuff”

RetComLife – The Thing About Men Part 1: Just The Facts…

Before I get into the basic idea for this 3-day series about Retirement Community Life, I need to give you a little basic background. “Just the facts” as Joe Friday used to say on the TV show Dragnet. Most RetComs (retirement communities) are usually about 75% women and 25% men, and the majority of the staff of the community are primarily women. So, we men … Continue reading RetComLife – The Thing About Men Part 1: Just The Facts…

RetComLife – Retirement Community Review… One Final Time

During my two major trips, and even in between, I have visited about a dozen different retirement communities across the country. This review will be the last one in that category. Two weeks ago, I finally managed to visit an actual “Active” Retirement Community. The review of this facility, and some final thoughts on the topic will be what this post is all about. To … Continue reading RetComLife – Retirement Community Review… One Final Time

If I Tell You Now, We Won’t Have Anything To Talk About When We Are Old

I came across the words above when I was recently watching an early TV episode of “Mad About You” for the 1980s. That brought to mind the often quoted idea that after being married for decades, old couples can practically finish each other’s sentences. That never happened with my wife and me as we were so very different people. Even in our last conversation before … Continue reading If I Tell You Now, We Won’t Have Anything To Talk About When We Are Old

RetComLife – Feedlot Dining

This might seem like a strange title for a post in my retirement community life category, but I kinda think that as a result of 2+ years of COVID, it likely describes the current sit-down dining option in many retirement communities. For all you city folks, I will let Wikipedia describe just what a feedlot is. That is kind of like what happens when retirement … Continue reading RetComLife – Feedlot Dining

RetCom: Fitting In – Grumpy Old Men

Ok, I have been in my RetCom** over a year now, but I had yet to join any regularly scheduled activity. I did try to start up a support group that would help hearing challenged folks here have a better life, but that was a bust. Hundreds of folks here wear hearing aids or have little hearing left, but few are interested in learning new … Continue reading RetCom: Fitting In – Grumpy Old Men

EPS#3 – Starry Night & A Mini Meltdown

For this week’s “Every Picture Has A Story”, I give you Starry Night by Vincent Van Gough. The story behind the picture is very emotional for me. I don’t really remember when I first saw the picture above, but it immediately drew me in. It was just something about all the crude swirls. When I read about Van Gough’s life the hook went in deeper. … Continue reading EPS#3 – Starry Night & A Mini Meltdown

RetComLife – The Second Shoe – Making Things Better

Yesterday’s post was about one of the two things I am doing to basically change where I am going with RetComLife. Today’s post is the second shoe I don’t want to be one of those people who simply complains about things, but yes, I do find many things to complain about here on RJsCorner. One of the categories that houses the most complaints is likely … Continue reading RetComLife – The Second Shoe – Making Things Better

RetComLife – Stories About Fitting In (aka becoming one of the gang)

I now have over 40 posts in the category of RetComLife (retirement community life), so I have decided to now forego the numbers in the title line. My RetComLife posts up until now, have been about the “dos and don’ts” and possible choices of selecting a place to live in our senior years, or finding the right place for a loved one. After much search, … Continue reading RetComLife – Stories About Fitting In (aka becoming one of the gang)

RetComLife – I Am A Forward Thinker…

I am a forward thinker, and rarely a status-quo type guy. That often gets me in trouble here at my retirement community. All of my life I have been in the “Mr. Fix-It” mode. I am always looking to how to make things better. In my mind, there is no situation that can’t stand improvement. I think many of us baby boomers grew up with … Continue reading RetComLife – I Am A Forward Thinker…

RetComLife #40 -“Active” Retirement Communities

It’s been a while since I posted in the RetComLife project. Sorry… If there is one lesson I can get you to realize in my RetComLife series it is, if you are an active senior you should probably seek out an “active” retirement community for your first retirement home. During my exploration of retirement communities in the last year, I can tell you that the … Continue reading RetComLife #40 -“Active” Retirement Communities

Without Death, Living Would Be Unbearable.

Now that my “Love of my Life” series is completed, I want to end this week’s posts on a related topic. Almost everyone knows the old saying Everyone wants to go to heaven, but no one wants to die to get here I read that to say that we are afraid we won’t stack up to the qualifications to pass the pearly gates. Or maybe, … Continue reading Without Death, Living Would Be Unbearable.

RetComLife # 39 – “The Decision”

Procrastination, overthinking, whatever you want to call it, is what I typically do. I recognize I overthink, in fact, I overthink about overthinking. It’s time to make a decision! I have decided that I will stay where I am and will visit that decision on an annual basis. So, I am calling this place “Home”. It is where I will live now and for the … Continue reading RetComLife # 39 – “The Decision”

RetComLife #38 – Sedentary…

I know I don’t need to use a big word here. I could have just said “couch potato”. But, since I am a wordsmith, I am always on the lookout for the most descriptive description. How does “sedentary” fit in with Retirement Community Life? That is what this post is all about. During my recent On-The-Road trip that covered 6,000 miles of the South and … Continue reading RetComLife #38 – Sedentary…

RetComLife #37 – Eliminating Possibilities

Eliminating possibilities is how decisions are often made. There is seldom a “sure thing” answer to any problem. What we, or at least I, have to do is to start by eliminating things until there is only one choice. That is what I am doing right now. I spent 3+ weeks traveling around much of this country to try to decide where I want to … Continue reading RetComLife #37 – Eliminating Possibilities

RetComLife #36 – A Different Mindset…

It was a year ago today that started the beginning of the end for my wife. She had just suffered her 4th and most severe heart attack that would in 78 days result in her death. Those 78 days were the most stressful of my life! Being an Aspie I had more emotional breakdown during that time than I thought was even possible. For me, … Continue reading RetComLife #36 – A Different Mindset…

RetComLife#35 – Outside My Comfort Zone

I have decided to use the upcoming lifetime roadtrip to move out of my comfort zone and look for alternative areas of the country for my retirement community life. Except for four years in New Jersey, and a few months in Guadalajara Mexico, I have spent my life in Indiana, but I have almost no roots here anymore, so maybe it is time to get … Continue reading RetComLife#35 – Outside My Comfort Zone

RetComLife # 34 – Starting To Have Some Serious Doubts

I am starting to have my doubts whether I want to make my permanent home here in my present retirement community. That is what this post is all about. First, I am paying a lot of money for things I currently have little use for. My retirement community costs over $40,000/year. That is about average for my area, but it is at least a couple … Continue reading RetComLife # 34 – Starting To Have Some Serious Doubts

Until It’s Gone

This post like many, came to me in my daily morning shower. Over the past many years I have come to realize that I am a “morning” person. Most of my creative juices come during the first five or six hours after awakening each day. Before I got out of my shower, I had already formulated the storyline for this post. I usually try to … Continue reading Until It’s Gone

RetComLife#33 – I Am Tired Of …

Here I am sitting at my keyboard again, when I should be having dinner. Let me explain a little more. Some of you know that I have Aspie traits that make social situations uncomfortable. For that reason, I usually go to dinner here in my retirement community during the last fifteen minutes of the meal hour. I go down then because there is usually a … Continue reading RetComLife#33 – I Am Tired Of …

RetComLife #32 – Joining the 21st Century

My retirement community consumes hundreds of pounds of paper daily. Each of the 400 or so residents gets a dozen or so pages a day of notices/menus/activities/etc. related to our community life. I think maybe I hit a sore spot by bringing up this fact. Here we are 22 years into the new century, and they seem to be stuck in the 20th Century. Being … Continue reading RetComLife #32 – Joining the 21st Century

RetComLife #31 – The Second Day Cafe

It has been about two weeks now that my retirement community took away the cafe dining option and brought back the “sit and wait” as the only way to use my $350 monthly meal allocation. February was the only month in the eight months I have been here that I used even close to all of that monthly allotment. Before that, I seldom used more … Continue reading RetComLife #31 – The Second Day Cafe

RetComLife #30 – The Lucy Moment…

I want to tell you a little story about my retirement community home. Due to Omicron, they shut down the “sit and wait” dining room service in February and replaced it with a cafeteria type carry-out service. That proved to be almost ideal for me, as I don’t have to make every meal here an uncomfortable social event. Due to my Aspie traits I don’t … Continue reading RetComLife #30 – The Lucy Moment…

RetComLife #29 – Some Disappointments

I have been having some disappointments here at my retirement community lately. The main one are the dining options. I have a $350 monthly stipend for meals for each month. Until this month, I seldom used over $100 of that amount. When Omicron came on the scene in late January, the eat-in dining room was closed and replaced with a walk-up cafe option. That made … Continue reading RetComLife #29 – Some Disappointments

RetComLife #28 – Homestead vs Community Mindset

I have been in my retirement community now for over seven months, but much of me still remains at my homestead. RetComLife is much different from where I had been for a decade. It is more difficult than I imaged to throw off the homestead mindset. Where I was once surrounded by peaceful forests, I am now surrounded by my fellow retirement community citizens. Where … Continue reading RetComLife #28 – Homestead vs Community Mindset